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Would you leave your partner if they told people about your fetish?

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My gf told her friends and her sister about my fetish. She knows i'm really insecure about it. But she did it anyway. I don't think i can properly process how betrayed i feel. Now i'm wondering if I should leave her.

I can maybe understand telling your sister, but she did'nt have to tell her friends, especially because I want that info to be PRIVATE!

Should i stay or should i go?
nektar94 · 41-45, M
No, I would ask my girlfriend if her younger sister can join in
Badunk · 31-35, M
@nektar94 wut?
SW-User
your gf is an asshole but nobody is obligated to entertain your fetish
Badunk · 31-35, M
@SW-User I never expected anything of her. It is a "bonus" in our sex life, not an obligation.
SW-User
@Badunk they’d always have it on the back of their mind tho
Badunk · 31-35, M
@SW-User well, we have indulged in it, and she expressed an interest.. somewhat. But it doesn't take away from our normal "vanilla" sex life. I just don't know if i can trust her anymore.
think I'm protected under HIPPA with him
Viper · M
@saragoodtimes so a threesome? You and him, with HIPPA on top? ;) :P hehehe
nowic2 · 61-69, M
Well at the very least her telling others when she both said she wouldn't & she knew you were self conscious about. Indicates she doesn't have a lot of respect for you & she is ok about betraying you. You need a conversation to discuss it & decide where to go from there. Trust is hard to get back!
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I'm pretty vanilla, so it wouldn't be anything to leave for but I would be angry they are talking about our sex life to random people.
sounds like you need to find someone with your interests, or someone who is willing to indulge your kink.
Stevy · 46-50, M
Nah, it's not a big deal.
Badunk · 31-35, M
@Stevy Its a pregnancy fetish. We have explored it. But i wanted to keep it private and not have people know something so personal to me. I used to hate myself because of it and she knows that. She just betrayed my trust by telling a bunch of people. (Some i dont particularly like)

Not trying to direct any anger towards you btw just frustrated af.
Stevy · 46-50, M
@Badunk I hear you, you have a right to be upset. I have fetish's myself and I could care less if my GF told anyone. But that's just me.🤷‍♂️
Badunk · 31-35, M
@Stevy thanks man. I know its not a big deal to have a fetish like this. I just had a bunch of people kinkshame me at a party and i don't really want to go through that again.
yogibooboo · M
I have so many fetishes, my partner would have to be really busy to tell the world about them.
HannahSky · F
She shouldn't tell anything that's private.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
Yes. Betray my trust in any way and I’m gone.
Viper · M
Um, you expected women not to talk to each other?

What is your fetish?

If you want.it that privite, then you shouldn't of.told your GF (or anyone).
Viper · M
@Badunk humans are social creatures... most can't help but share some of the time, especially if they're really tight with someone, something concerns them, or they get caught up in the moment.

People might be able to limit things to a small group of people but not completely tell no one.

But I think most women are going to talk about pregnancy and babies at some point, so I don't think your fetish is safe... especially when it's something only a woman's body can do.

Also remember, some girls might be scared off of that fetish, and dump you for it and she didn't/hasn't.


What you should do, depends on how you feel about her, outside of this one thing... how did you feel about her before finding out about this?

If you two truely like each other, I think y'all be able to move on past this without too much trouble.
Badunk · 31-35, M
@Viper she is controling, and has fits of rage. And I can't trust her anymore. Thanks for the reply.
Viper · M
@Badunk If she's controlling and you don't like it, especially with fits of rage, that.might only get word the deeper you get involved with the person.
CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F
That is private info and she should not have shared. Or she should have talked about any concerns she has to you. I've been guilty of doing that TBH. If you would break up over this, I'm not sure the relationship is very strong to begin with?
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Badunk · 31-35, M
@Angeliclove I can keep a secret for my woman.

 
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