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indyjoe · 56-60, M
I tend to agree with HatandCloak and with Beatbox34 on this one...It does mean something slightly or even completely different for everyone and there is no real definition of it. For me it has to be realness/naturalness and confidence. A woman who is not afraid of who she is, her femininity, her sexuality, her body, her mind and heart...and yet still has respect, consideration, understanding, and compassion for others too. Basically not being afraid of or ashamed of just being a person and being human (as an example...a woman who can be soft, feminine, classy/lady-like, and also be "just one of the guys"...a balance of the two and not an extreme of either) is sexy as heck to me. Make sense?
Lee124 · F
@indyjoe very much so. Absolutely agree with your definition. However, some are all those but not confident nor comfortable in their own skin and often overlooked. Meaning shy. How would you know if you don't make an effort to get to know them if they don't fit all your listed criteria? How would they still fall within your definition of sexy.
indyjoe · 56-60, M
@Lee124 Take my wife for instance...she was very tomboyish growing up and still has some of those traits even today, but she is also lady, classy and feminine (the "girl next door"). She is a kind, sensitive, caring, and loving woman who is not afraid to express herself, get her hands dirty, and can take care of herself when she needs to. She balances those sides almost perfectly. How did I find this out? She was not glamorous or a model/playmate but I found her to be very attractive and pretty so I began striking up brief conversations with her. It was SHE who showed interest first, we talked more in depth and decided to start dating and that is how I learned all of these wonderful things about her and who she was....as our friendship and our relationship took root and began to grow. Basically you can't know until the ice is broken.