Will you trust your lover again if you cheated one time?

@GJOFJ3 I did too, but then I also found out that the adage "once a cheater, always a cheater" is also very true. I can't say it isn't forgivable, but regaining and rebuilding that trust is extremely rare.

@indyjoe maybe there was something lacking in your relationship with that person or herself couldn't be faithful.

@SW-User Yes. There could be many reasons. I'm not justifying it, I'm just saying I believe in forgiveness and redemption

@GJOFJ3 interesting. I don't forgive them. 👀

@SW-User No it was nothing like that...I treated my ex wife exactly as I do my current wife and any other girl/woman I attempted to have a relationship with...like a queen and with a lot of love, admiration, attention, and respect. I am not perfect, but I have always been the type to give my all in a relationship when I love someone. No, she was selfish, unappreciative, and narcissistic...she was also one hell of an actress to get whatever she wanted. She had everyone fooled, not just me, but also her friends and her own family. I was just a good person, with a big heart and therefore an easy target to use for her agenda (whatever that may have been). Thankfully I found a woman who truly admires and appreciates those qualities in me and that makes me want to do and give even more to her as she gives so much to me.😉

@indyjoe well I know she hurt you but relationships aren't just about treating the other with love and respect, sometimes people aren't compatible, I don't know her but regardless I'm glad you're doing well. @indyjoe

@SW-User Thank you. But that's just it...we were very compatible (or at least she led me to believe we were for the whole time we were seeing each other), I believed I had finally found the person I'd always dreamed of and waited for. But that all began to change almost immediately once when we married. Oh well...that is all water under the bridge and it was just another step along the broken road that led to my finding the true woman of my dreams and my current wife.

@indyjoe that's another thing, marriage isn't for everyone, but then yes, maybe just wanting some benefit or had personal issues.

@indyjoe did she enjoy intimacy with you? I maybe shouldn't ask that but just curious

@SW-User I guess she did, we had a terrific sex life...until literally our wedding night once the marriage was sealed. From there it became sporadic and within a year or so I was cut off completely.

@indyjoe I'm glad you're happy now in your marriage

@SW-User The marriage with the ex ended 21 years ago. I have been with my wife now for nearly 16 years (married to her for nearly 14).