How do I stay positive?

My relationship is the closest thing to perfect right now but I’m literally laying here thinking about all the things we’ve been through the past year and it’s making me upset. I’m trying my hardest to stay positive but it’s honestly not working. Its been almost 2 hours and I’m still thinking about it and it hurts. I never wanted to go through certain things with him and it happened anyway. Yes I’m grateful that things are better now but it’s now starting to bother me and I can’t talk to him about it because he’s working 😪 I honestly just want the negative thoughts to go away

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SW-User

Ah, betrayal, dishonesty and cheating.
I understand where you're coming from. It is hard to fully forgive someone who has betrayed you in the past. Perhaps you had been brushing it off and now your brain is reminding you of the negative things to keep u from getting hurt again

If he is really worth it, then continue. But tbh a lot of people would have given an ultimatum

Fantasyproject · 26-30, F

I’m trying because I really want a future with him but these damn thoughts are just there.when I spoke to him about it before he, he said he understood and that he wants me to try to trust him. @SW-User

curiosi · 61-69, F

Don't try and force them away, just breathe and listen to your breath while the thoughts flow through.

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curiosi · 61-69, F

@Fantasyproject I find it helps to go outside and look up at the stars.

Fantasyproject · 26-30, F

That’s a good idea but you can’t see them where I am@curiosi

Fantasyproject · 26-30, F

Maybe I should just take a walk

Jessmari · 41-45

Seems like you need to power through until you have that talk. Maybe write it all down till he gets home. Somtimes writing them down can help keep thoughts organized.

Fantasyproject · 26-30, F

I used to write all the time, now I just keep things to myself and eventually get over it@Jessmari

Psycho · 26-30, M

What are the negative things?

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Psycho · 26-30, M

@Fantasyproject Maybe you have forgiven him and you are thinking about it because you don't trust him?

Did he cheat on his last partner?

My recommendation is to leave the man but I am a stranger on the internet. You gotta look into yourself, your beliefs, values and heart to get your own answer. 😕

Fantasyproject · 26-30, F

He says he wants me to try to trust him again because we actually want to be together and I am, I’ve been really happy lately. I think I’m just afraid that i don’t deserve this and it’s going to happen again @Psycho

Fantasyproject · 26-30, F

I tend to overthink everything and I think that’s what’s happening

SW-User

What exactly is it that's bothering you? Any past mistakes?

Fantasyproject · 26-30, F

Yes, all of them, I just wish it never happened in the first place.it made me look at him differently. I’m happy that he’s making up for his mistakes but I won’t be able to handle it the same if it happened again. I’m trying to get pregnant and the only thing running through my head is the fact that the other mother of his child disrespected me and how I’m going to have to deal with her as long as I want to be with him because they have kids together. Yes, he keeps her completely out of our lives but what’s gonna happen when he tells her I’m pregnant? Then I’m gonna have to fuck shit up because she don’t know how to act. @SW-User

Spoiledbrat · F

Just redirect your thoughts as often as you can.

Fantasyproject · 26-30, F

I try but for some reason the thoughts keep popping up. I’m not sure me not taking my meds have anything to do with it@Spoiledbrat

SW-User

Let the past go

Fantasyproject · 26-30, F

I thought I did, things were fine until today @SW-User

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