How do I stay positive?

My relationship is the closest thing to perfect right now but I’m literally laying here thinking about all the things we’ve been through the past year and it’s making me upset. I’m trying my hardest to stay positive but it’s honestly not working. Its been almost 2 hours and I’m still thinking about it and it hurts. I never wanted to go through certain things with him and it happened anyway. Yes I’m grateful that things are better now but it’s now starting to bother me and I can’t talk to him about it because he’s working 😪 I honestly just want the negative thoughts to go away

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Psycho · 26-30, M

What are the negative things?

Fantasyproject · 26-30, F

Betrayal, dishonesty, cheating @Psycho

Psycho · 26-30, M

@Fantasyproject Maybe forgive him if you can in your mind for your own inner peace.

I would say breaking up may even be the right thing to do as that trust is broken and he has a child with another woman but it's not my place to say. I know losing a partner can be as painful as hell.

Fantasyproject · 26-30, F

He had kids before I met him though, he didn’t get her pregnant while she was with me. Though I never saw myself with a guy that has children already. I’ve actually been fine and over until today. It came to my mind earlier and never left. I thought I forgave him already @Psycho

Psycho · 26-30, M

@Fantasyproject Maybe you have forgiven him and you are thinking about it because you don't trust him?

Did he cheat on his last partner?

My recommendation is to leave the man but I am a stranger on the internet. You gotta look into yourself, your beliefs, values and heart to get your own answer. 😕

Fantasyproject · 26-30, F

He says he wants me to try to trust him again because we actually want to be together and I am, I’ve been really happy lately. I think I’m just afraid that i don’t deserve this and it’s going to happen again @Psycho

Fantasyproject · 26-30, F

I tend to overthink everything and I think that’s what’s happening