Should I just settle down with "Fair enough"?

He has his flaws. He may not be a perfect match of my calibre, not stimulating enough for intelligent conversations, language and country barrier to cross, restrictions I have to compromise.

It's not that I can't find anyone else better out there; I know my worth and potential.
I can easily find someone of my calibre if desired.

I may not love him the most in my lifetime, but I'm satisfied.
He's willing to spend the rest of his life with me, to shift over to my country and build a home with me.
I can choose to be eternally devoted to him, although there's a void he isn't able to fill. But there's no one size fits all isn't there?

I just wonder if it's okay for me to do the same. I may not have my emotional needs fulfilled from him, but I can find another outlet, like friends or stimulating debates / activities.

Is it okay for me to settle with fair enough?

PinkPowerRanger ·

do whatever, you're young and its a learning curve. if it works out great, if it doesnt then you will appreciate being alone or appreciate someone better or dont settle. there are way more options and none are really wrong

Ynotisay · M

I'm sorry. You're 18-21 and you're posting this about a guy who lives in another country?
And you're talking about "settling?"
I don't get it.

Azoica · 26-30, F

I'm in an LDR with a guy who's much older than me. (13 years older)
We've been together for awhile. He hopes that whatever we have, leads to a marriage in the future, a life together. I can picture that, but I know that he can't cater to every of my needs.

An expectation of him being able to support me the way I want, it's not easy. There's only so much we can express through a common language that we aren't so skilled in.

Well it's clear to see that he'll like to settle earlier, so I'm taking this time to think about my future or how things will pan out.