Should I just settle down with "Fair enough"?

He has his flaws. He may not be a perfect match of my calibre, not stimulating enough for intelligent conversations, language and country barrier to cross, restrictions I have to compromise.

It's not that I can't find anyone else better out there; I know my worth and potential.
I can easily find someone of my calibre if desired.

I may not love him the most in my lifetime, but I'm satisfied.
He's willing to spend the rest of his life with me, to shift over to my country and build a home with me.
I can choose to be eternally devoted to him, although there's a void he isn't able to fill. But there's no one size fits all isn't there?

I just wonder if it's okay for me to do the same. I may not have my emotional needs fulfilled from him, but I can find another outlet, like friends or stimulating debates / activities.

Is it okay for me to settle with fair enough?

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JP1119 · 36-40, M

Why do you want to settle for fair enough? Why not find someone else of your calibre if you so desire?

Azoica · 26-30, F

@JP1119 Hey! I'm surprised that you commented on an old post. X)

TLDR; I found it hard to leave this toxic relationship that I thought was fair enough. I felt guilt. There was times where I thought it was okay, and many times it has made me cry. But finally, his insecurities caused him to let me go on a whim - and I was free (quite recent, it was just this April when it happened). He regretted his choice but I knew I had the freedom to leave.

From there onwards, I found someone of similar calibre that would treat me right. I'm in constant disbelief but I felt so blessed. I'm just so grateful and happy that I didn't stay.

Thank you for your logical comments, I really appreciate people like you who takes the time to understand another person's experience with care, than to dismiss it as a pathetic post.

Throughout my ordeal, there were people who would say hurtful and apathetic words because I was going on about the same thing. I'm just thankful and appreciative of certain people in the community who empathise than hate.

I couldn't imagine if someone who wasn't as mentally strong taking that. Thank you for being inquisitive with care.

JP1119 · 36-40, M

@Azoica Glad you found someone who treats you right!