Shorttemperedguy · 61-69, M
No. Not cheating if nothing is put in place

SW-User
Why would you mess up with others if you have feelings for him?
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SW-User
@purpleemandem it sounds disrespectful
@SW-User It sounds like low moral standards as she would not like it if he did the same to her from what I have read.
purpleemandem · 26-30, F
@Elandra77 Oh please. I was just asking out of curiosity. I know that it’s unfair to hold him at a different standard, therefore I’m leaning towards not doing anything.
jomsim · 26-30, M
The best person to answer this would be the guy himself. Maybe he wants to have some fun with other people too. Communication is key. See how he feels, and then you'll know what to do.
purpleemandem · 26-30, F
@jomsim From what I've gathered, he hasn't been seeing anyone else as he's taking summer school classes and working
jomsim · 26-30, M
@purpleemandem Still worth having the discussion. You don't have to make it about you. You could just ask him what he'd do if he met someone and wanted a little fling. If he says he'd be faithful to you, that shows you what his thinking is.
summersong · F
How would you feel if he did the same? That’s going to give you the best answer as to whether it will feel like cheating to you or not.
purpleemandem · 26-30, F
@summersong See, I wouldn't want him to do the same, and like you said, it's not fair to hold him at a different standard.
summersong · F
@purpleemandem it’s also likely to make you feel bad afterwards. Just something to consider before making any decisions.
MysteryWanting · F
Goodness. You have an idea of a relationship with a guy and that means you can't have real fun with others in front of you? You are single girl. Be safe but have fun.
Elessar · 26-30, M
Better have a talk with him soon, clarify whether you want to be exclusive or not *before* the holiday. You don't want to hurt him nor experience the drama that is inevitably going to happen; just let him know if you're actually interested (then no messing around should happen while on holiday), or not.

SW-User
Well then tell him beforehand
HannibalMontanimal · 26-30, M
You're not in a relationship so no worries.
Newfound · 41-45, M
I think you should have some fun before you get serious.
Newfound · 41-45, M
Not cheating!
Awfullybrave · F
How would you feel if he is hooking up up with others girls before he comes back? If it doesn't bother you then go ahead but if you wouldn't like I would recommend to not do it either
purpleemandem · 26-30, F
@Awfullybrave That's what I was thinking too. Thanks!
UserNameSW · 46-50, M
Ask if you would be OK with him getting some while away or not.
He likely feels the same.
He likely feels the same.
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
Honestly, I think it's kinda the wrong attitude to take towards relationships. I don't get how you can have feelings for someone but want to sleep with other people..
looking4thesun · M
Have you even met him in person?
purpleemandem · 26-30, F
@looking4thesun Oh yeah. I've known him for like 2 years now and have spent a considerable amount of time with him in person
WineandCoffee · 51-55, F
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