Guys, do u think women make the relationship about them?

It's about both people. Making the relationship about one person, is not a woman or man thing, it's a personality issue. Unfortunately, some people have it.

just like with everything else about people, it depends on the person

What are ways women make it just about them ?

Most of women and also men try to do it about the couple, the relationship.
Seems, anyhow, that each gender haves a non totally identical conception of what a relationship is or should be.
And each one "naturalize" it´s own view as if were the only posible, instead of two converging complementary ones.
This is not really about "communication", a bit overused term.
Is about experience and being open to live and think them.
Wich is rare, so there are clashes.

They can when they focus solely on their needs and things "YOU" need to do in order to make the relationship work. When they refuse to compromise and expect you to put in most of the work. Then it becomes about how you're not seeing to her needs or respecting how she feels. I been there before. I hit that exit door with the most haste before she could even change face.

That's a fucking trap have ever I seen one

Some women do, some men do. Some women don't, some men don't. It is about both of them, not just about gender.

Thank God Im gay. Heterosexaul relationships are a lot of effort just to get laid