Has a boyfriend ever been beat up in front of you? Honestly: was it in any way embarrassing to you.

Well Becksta, it's not that I ever wanted to fight. But if another guy challenges you in front of your girlfriend, then what do you do? If you fight and lose, it's embarrassing. But if you back out, it is even MORE embarrassing because the woman might think you are a coward or that you can't fight.@HootyTheNightOwl

@BigRon Or...she could admire that one didn't give in or want to fight , that he took the higher road..many women like that too👍☀️

@BigRon We live in 2019, not the year 19 and we no longer dwell in caves thumping clubs against the wall - there are other ways to diffuse a situation without needing to resort to fisticuffs.

That is very true, Seastar. But then again the woman would convey that to you and make you feel good about yourself. If a woman remains silent, or if you can see embarrassment on her face, there is just no where to hide.@Coralmist

Yes. You are right, Becksta. We now live in 2019. But our thinking is still from centuries past on a lot of things. And there are still many females who love watching a fight. And those are the women, generally speaking, who feel embarrassed if their man loses. Especially if he loses easily.@HootyTheNightOwl

@BigRon If there's embarrassment on her face, maybe it's not a fit. A person should love another not based on what they do or can do, but on who they ARE. PAtient, humorous, kind...that is most important

Yep, yeah, and yes. But it depends on the "love" level, I think. If you don't really love a man maybe it's okay if he fights. Most women who like fights, don't want to see someone they love get into one. My problem, I guess, is that I lost fights in front of women who didn't love me.@Coralmist

@BigRon If a man has to resort to fighting other men for whatever reason, then, what's he going to do to me as a woman if he doesn't get his own way???

i'd much rather have a guy with a high enough IQ to use effective communication to talk his way out of trouble. This indicates to me that he is going to be more likely to turn to communication rather than violence when things don't go well in the relationship.

@BigRon 😟So they were kind of taking it as a fling? Either way don't be hard on yourself, now you know through this, you want a woman who wouldn't judge you or be embarrassed if you chose not fighting 🌻