I'm getting a divorce I am! In fact, I'm the one who asked for it! I'm not in love with him...

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I am! In fact, I'm the one who asked for it! I'm not in love with him any more and don't want him back However I still care about him and I know that if he needs me I'll be there. Is that uncommon?

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DraytonSawyer · M

I no longer believe in love.

Niloo · 46-50, F

@DraytonSawyer
I'm sorry to hear that
Hugs

DraytonSawyer · M

@Niloo Nothing to be sorry about, but thank you.

sunrisehawk · 61-69, M Best Comment

Perfectly normal from my viewpoint. No matter what, they shared a life with you.

SweetMae · 70-79, F

I don't think it is uncommon. You can stop loving someone but still wish them well.

lasergraph · 70-79, M

It depends. I think it matters how long you have been together. The more time invested the harder it is to completely separate. I know couples who hate each other but also know some who became best friends.

JesseInTX · 51-55, M

Since you have kids the two of you are bound together forever. Not just up until child support payments stop. Graduations, weddings, career achievements, grandchildren, etc. At the very outset of my divorce it was a very strained relationship. As time went on though we became really good friends. The initial pain will eventually wear off and building a new relationship can begin.

Niloo · 46-50, F

@JesseInTX
Thank you. I sure hope so.

sunrisehawk · 61-69, M

Thank you for the best answer and best wishes

Niloo · 46-50, F

@sunrisehawk
Thank you !

Haniazed

Wow...you did it...his is huge for you. I hope this is the beginning of something wonderful to come🤗💕

I think it’s more common than you’d think. Even if it ends badly and separate on bad terms, they eventually establish some kind of a relationship especially if the kids are involved.

I hope it all works out for you. You deserve happiness!

Niloo · 46-50, F

@Haniazed
Thank you 🤗

ronisme1 · 61-69, M

my wife is the same - she has asked me for a divorce but doesn't want me to leave.

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ronisme1 · 61-69, M

she is not doing it for herself - she is doing it for her kids. they have been trying to break us up for 25 years. Her girls. Her son and i are great together. They want her and their dad together again. they did not accept their divorce

Niloo · 46-50, F

@ronisme1
Sorry to hear that.
Wishing you all the best

ronisme1 · 61-69, M

@Niloo thanks

tomtracy438 · 41-45, M

Good luck

softspokenman · M

👍️ Best wishes @Niloo

PhoenixPhail · M

I IS rather uncommon - so many divorces end with anger. I think it's great you ended your marriage amicably.

Niloo · 46-50, F

@PhoenixPhail
It's not amicable ....
But I'm trying my best to keep it from getting ugly 😐️

PhoenixPhail · M

@Niloo Good for you. I hope it all works out well, for BOTH of you. 🤞

Niloo · 46-50, F

@PhoenixPhail
Thank you.

masterofyou · 70-79, M

No people fallout of love and fall in love with other people.. 😉

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Niloo · 46-50, F

@masterofyou
Well
We just started the process
We'll see how it goes 😏

masterofyou · 70-79, M

@Niloo Good luck....

Niloo · 46-50, F

@masterofyou
Thank you

JohnOinger · 41-45, M

its Good For You To Be Civil With Him After The Divorce For The Sake Of Your Kids

Niloo · 46-50, F

@JohnOinger
Thank you .

JohnOinger · 41-45, M

@Niloo Your Welcome

KentuckyWildcats · M

Over that one hiccup where you're ASS U ME (ing) he hired a whore?

I'd make damn sure first!

Niloo · 46-50, F

@KentuckyWildcats
No
Not over that
Our marriage had many more problems

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

Divorce doesn’t have to be nasty. Hopefully it’s an amicable divorce and if you have kids they adjust more easily. Good luck!

lost213 · 46-50, M

That’s the way it should be.. two people acting like mature adults... not like my divorce.. it was a blood bath!

KentuckyWildcats · M

@lost213 Lawyers cause that shit. They don't GAF about either of you, they just want all your money. A couple I know were having problems and she consulted a divorce atty. The lawyer was telling her I can get you this and that etc, etc. It pissed her off what he told her and she dropped the thought. You know the rest of the story. They lived happily ever after and are in their late 70's.