Is it wrong of me to be hurt and upset by my boyfriend's move?

At the risk of maybe sounding a bit cliche, your feelings are never wrong. And the older I get, the more I realize the word "normal" applies to a lot less than I used to think. You'll waste your time and energy wondering if it's "normal" or not. Focus on "why" instead, and then after you think you have that figured out, "what" is next.

So, with all that said... I think your feeling hurt is expected given the information you've provided. You thought there was clear plans between the two of you to either live together or remain close to one another while living in separate places. And it's clear, again given the info here, that your boyfriend felt otherwise. So what you'll need to figure out here is whether there really was clearly communicated plans for the two of you to either live together or close by one another. For example, when you and he had conversations about it, were the conversations clear and focused, or were they more along the lines of, "Hey, wouldn't it be great if..." If it's the latter, it might be easy for one person in the conversation to view it as "we have these plans laid out" while the other person views it as "dreams are good, but reality is like this."

Hopefully that makes some sense...

Perfectly normal.. feelings are feelings, they aren't right or wrong.. they just are what you feel. It's natural when you had hopes and plans and he seems to have quite different plans that he hasn't let you in on..
I wonder did he know your plans? College etc? He may well have done... but did he know you hoped that you would eventually live together? That might be important...
I wonder if you have discussed how you are feeling with him now?

You’re allowed to feel how you feel!!!!!

I can’t express this strongly enough.

Discuss it with him. Maybe he does not understand your level of commitment. Perhaps he'll change his mind if he is made aware of your attitude. If he sees a different path than you, it should be laid out.

Your not offended by him moving. Your hurt for two reasons i access.

1. You see him less.
2. He didn't seem to put you in a priority but you put him in that one.

You need look for the little signs. Is this one of many little signs that tell you he doesnt give a damn? Or is this a anomaly?

It concerns me that he has "living expenses" and goes and buys a dog. If he was a "normal" person id say he just put a dog he never met before above his woman.

Also i suggest you read the book love languages.

Also wild at heart and captivating by john eldridge.

while totally agreeing with those people who said to talk with him about it, i have more than a 1 hour drive between home and school almost every day . . . most of my friends live more than an hour away . . . its even more than an hour to the nearest starbucks! i know it depends what you are used to, so not like taking away from how you feel or whatever but once its like a normal part of your life you dont really notice it

You had this mindset, but ... hadnt discussed it with him? You really need to talk to him about this, b/c he may well be oblivious of your thinking.

If you have told him, then .. yeah, I'd be hurt in that situation.

But guys are terrible at mindreading

Talk to him and get on the same page. Sounds like a lot of assumptions are at play. An hour really isnt horrible

I think you need to talk to him to make sure you are on the same page.

An hour is nothing. Just be glad you two still have each other. Its for your own good. 🙂