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Is it wrong of me to be hurt and upset by my boyfriend's move?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months, but we're still quite serious and committed to one another. We currently live 30 minutes apart and have been making it work just fine. However, he's just recently decided to move 1 hour away, to cut living costs. He also wants to get a dog, making it obvious that he sees this living arrangement as fairly long term.
In the fall, I'll be moving into town, but still be 1 hour away from him. I'll be working and going to college full time.
For the last couple months, I'd thought we'd planned to move in together or at the very least live only 10 or 15 minutes away from each other, not an hour. While I have no doubt we can make it work regardless, I'm still hurt because I had this mindset, that he apparently didn't share.
While I'm not trying to stop him, and I support him all the way, I'm still hurt. I was so excited to live closer to each other, and instead, I'm going to see him even less than I do now. It sucks. Is that wrong of me, or is this a normal feeling?
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firefall · 61-69, M
You had this mindset, but ... hadnt discussed it with him? You really need to talk to him about this, b/c he may well be oblivious of your thinking.

If you have told him, then .. yeah, I'd be hurt in that situation.

But guys are terrible at mindreading
wolfess · 26-30, F
@firefall He was the one who initially brought up living together in the beginning.