Anyone feel like...?

They make the effort for ur partner but they dont give back? I mean they appear to give back on ur birthday etc but dont seem to notice the day to day things u do for them? I dont care for my birthday or Xmas but I think it's the little things that count. Any time I flag it up to him he just goes quiet & says it's a bad time to talk about it! If I try another time it's a bad time for him... but he never comes forward to me!

Any thoughts?

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Summergirly · 26-30, F

I know how that feels, for me it's the little things that count and I am always doing daily little things for my boyfriend (1.5 years we have been together) but he very rarely does any of the little things for me. The only things he does do is pay for dinner when we go out to eat (like once a week) and he buys me things for my birthday/christmas/ anniversary. I think what it comes down to is that he just doesn't know better, or doing little things just isn't his love language. This is his first relationship as well as my first relationship, so I don't have a lot of expectations and I love him anyway, he's a great guy. In my opinion it would be difficult to change his behavior because if you tell him what you'd like him to do and he starts doing it, it will seem like he's only doing it because you told him to and it's not genuine anymore.

BondGirl84 · 36-40, F

@Summergirly it is frustrating!

mrbuddhawannabe · 56-60, M

We are all different in how we show our caring and love. Google The Five Love Languages.
Talk about how each of you show your love and how you want to receive I ty.
Start from there.

BondGirl84 · 36-40, F

@mrbuddhawannabe will do... but this is coming from my husband who goes quiet on anything I say to him. I dont want to fight but he never says anything he cant stand up for himself, its frustrating! Will Google the 5 language thing tho

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