Husband won’t look for Job - attraction gone now, want divorce ?

Husband of 6 years was fired over 8 months ago. He won’t put his resume together. Naps and drinks beer all day. He wasn’t like this when we first met and keeps making promises to look for a job. He squandered 70k in savings and surprises me with us not having any money left..I’m at my wits end. After all the burden I’m carrying now I’m to the point that I’m ready to divorce him, and have let him know for months. It makes me so mad and I’ve lost my attraction to him. Is that normal ? He’s a good guy but had shit for romodel parents. His 65 year old mom works 60 hours a week while his dad squanders all their money, ruins credit.. poor woman doesn’t have a backbone so she won’t leave him..theyre alcoholics.. all traits I’m starting to see in my husband. Is there any looking up from here? Am I overreacting? Most importantly will I be attracted to him again if he does get his crap together at some point ? He won’t commit to counseling either... Anyone able to relate or been through something similar?

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Frankyboy · 46-50, M

Wow !! Ok he's not going to change anything ..unless you show him what he is going to loose ... he's spent your family savings and I'm guessing makes all kinds of excuses to justify his stupidity. .. now tell me If he could spend all that savings .. was he thinking of yours and his future ? No !! So it falls on you to make him see what really is on the line here .. leave him .... make him see your not playing games .. this is real life . Leave him and don't give in until he shows you that you and your life together matter to him . It's hard I know but it's the only way you will know where his mind and feelings are at ... sorry it's come to this but you have to start thinking this way .. otherwise he won't get it, and showing him you mean business will be the only way to know where his heart is at ...