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SoFine 路 46-50, F
Long-terms are and will be a battle ground of expectations, hurts, trying to overcome.
If she did take up with this dude, who is the best, it won't last.
Why?
We have a notion that a "Special someone" will fill us, fill our empty, our needs.
In real life.
We are more like to trigger hurts, or events that we have never healed from, after the luster has left our partnership.
We either forgive those triggers, we each trigger, or we blame our partner or cheat.
Her ego is misguided, that he appears to fill her boxes of female delight, unknowingly he -if she lived with him, he will also become the shit on her shoes.
Her emptiness is an inner urge in her, she herself can fill it, no one else can. It is an illusion in her, in all of us, that we seek special to feel better about who we are.
1. Do you forgive her?
2. Do you forgive yourself? (For been an asshole sometimes)
3. Do you forgive and move on?
Take time to not react, aim to be calm and think, than be a reaction machine. We, can say things in heated arguments, when we should be calm.
Good luck...馃槰
If she did take up with this dude, who is the best, it won't last.
Why?
We have a notion that a "Special someone" will fill us, fill our empty, our needs.
In real life.
We are more like to trigger hurts, or events that we have never healed from, after the luster has left our partnership.
We either forgive those triggers, we each trigger, or we blame our partner or cheat.
Her ego is misguided, that he appears to fill her boxes of female delight, unknowingly he -if she lived with him, he will also become the shit on her shoes.
Her emptiness is an inner urge in her, she herself can fill it, no one else can. It is an illusion in her, in all of us, that we seek special to feel better about who we are.
1. Do you forgive her?
2. Do you forgive yourself? (For been an asshole sometimes)
3. Do you forgive and move on?
Take time to not react, aim to be calm and think, than be a reaction machine. We, can say things in heated arguments, when we should be calm.
Good luck...馃槰
Dazed 路 51-55, M
@SoFine
1. Do you forgive her?
I can,and it may seem weird
But I need her to tell me , Why. And not that it just happened. If that makes any sense
2. Do you forgive yourself? (For been an asshole sometimes)
Yes ,I know I am not the easiest to get along with
3. Do you forgive and move on? It can happen
What I am really struggling with is TRUST took me a long time to even consider it the first time.I really do not see how I will be able to trust her again,and my fear is that will only create a toxic and festering situation
1. Do you forgive her?
I can,and it may seem weird
But I need her to tell me , Why. And not that it just happened. If that makes any sense
2. Do you forgive yourself? (For been an asshole sometimes)
Yes ,I know I am not the easiest to get along with
3. Do you forgive and move on? It can happen
What I am really struggling with is TRUST took me a long time to even consider it the first time.I really do not see how I will be able to trust her again,and my fear is that will only create a toxic and festering situation
EugenieLaBorgia 路 F
war47 路 70-79, M
First, go to a layer and protect your finances.
Second, she that she is not worthy of being your wife.
Third, cheaters use the trust of a good partner against them.
Fourth, you are supporting her affair
Forgivemess does not mean that what the cheater did was ok.
Forgivesness does not mean that you want to stay in the relationship
Foregiveness means you will not allow her actions to destroy your present
Second, she that she is not worthy of being your wife.
Third, cheaters use the trust of a good partner against them.
Fourth, you are supporting her affair
Forgivemess does not mean that what the cheater did was ok.
Forgivesness does not mean that you want to stay in the relationship
Foregiveness means you will not allow her actions to destroy your present
Butterflykisses24 路 51-55, F
MrsKatherineArch 路 41-45, F
I鈥檓 sorry, but I don鈥檛 have any good answers for you. But you might be better off by leaving,
Goralski 路 51-55, M
She doesn't tell you ta go cause you're probably supporting her ass
Dazed 路 51-55, M
@Goralski We make bout the
same,yes if we were to split it would be a huge financial change but it would be survivable
I have alway prided myself on being open and honest and direct, If the situation were reversed ( id be out on my a$$)and thats where i wanted to be i would tell her,she would not
Find out the way i unfortunately have
All or nothing ,Commit or
Not there is no middle ground here
same,yes if we were to split it would be a huge financial change but it would be survivable
I have alway prided myself on being open and honest and direct, If the situation were reversed ( id be out on my a$$)and thats where i wanted to be i would tell her,she would not
Find out the way i unfortunately have
All or nothing ,Commit or
Not there is no middle ground here
Vegasfor30 路 61-69, M
Leave her ass and dont look back