If he’s unwilling to commit after a year, is it time to move on?

If you were the one for him, you wouldn't even be having that conversation.

He's a player
He doesn't want what you want
No matter how much time passes that will always be his answer

You all actually helped a lot. And it's not so sad now, when I think of it from the perspective that I'm not really losing anything....because you can't lose something you never had in the first place.

The time period is irrelevant, his reason is why you should move on.

If he's that busy, move on, certainly.

Usually after a few months you know what direction the relationship is going. A year is way too long to go in relationship limbo.

That's no reasoning. That's a blow-off.

Yesss, if he has no time to give you what you deserve, get out.

Yes, you already know that you should not continue in a relationship with this man. If you not his exclusive commitment in your relationship by this time, you never will be.

He probably has his reasons but yes, that's an excuse.. it's almost passive aggressive.. he doesn't want to lose you but would rather that than commit.. he has no plans to change..

If no one has the time go give you that you deserve then they aren't worth your time. They are basically telling you that this is all you are getting from them.

The right man will make time for what id important to him. He recognizes you aren't who he wants to commit his time to. He isn't ready, you can't change that. Love is a feeling that if it is right, he will commit. Actions speak louder than words. Don't seek what he isn't willing to give.

If you expect commitment after a year but he doesn’t want that also, sure. Why not.

probably so

What exactly is the definition of commitment in this case?

That said, the reason given seems like a pretty good one to bail.

You mean engagement? I would say it’s kinda fast. But at your age maybe it’s not, cause people are already tired of dating they want something more stable.

It is amazing to me how a woman can ask a question. Get a direct answer and they don't accept it because it is not what you want to hear. Not ready is no.

AND he’s back. And keeps giving me updates on his constant whereabouts on vacation.

Not talking marriage. Talking dating exclusively.

NOT ready for marriage.

Nope. Can you figure out everything about a person in 1 year?

That seems like a short time to pop the question.

I'd say yes, time to find someone who has the time

Commit how? Seems fast for marriage.

It’s ok. Since he’s not willing to commit to me and has “no time” for me, I had sex with his friend. Since he truly doesn’t care if I see other people, I’ll give him all the time in the world he needs to pursue other interests.

I feel like an idiot, but you all have confirmed exactly what I’ve thought.