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Should a friendzoned guy hide that he's in love with her, or no?

We were friends / close acquaintances. I liked her; admitted it to her. She rejected me, though all respectfully, politely, maturely, and caringly. She thinks I just liked her, and that I was not (and that I'm not) in love with her. Am I right in hiding it from her? Could there be a single valid reason for admitting I was lying, faking it?

She's been such a good friend to me, so I partially feel bad for lying to her. Yet I know she wouldn't be comfortable about it either, so I don't want to bother her needlessly (nor humiliate myself, for that matter).

We see each other on a regular basis through college.
MelyMel · 31-35, F
I'm a little confused- did you tell her you liked her and she rejected you and now you either want to admit that you really love her or that you want to tell her that it was all a lie? It seems like you already told her you liked her and she didn't reciprocate so at this point admitting even deeper feelings or trying to take it back won't work. Either continue being just friends or distance yourself. I went through a similar experience. It sucked, but it was worse because we were roommates LOL.
abooklover · 56-60, F
If she already rejected you, don't say anything. She's already made her decision. Sorry. It sucks when this happens.
Abrienda · 26-30, F
No...because she might be feeling the same way about you but thinking the same thing. Again that is from personal experience.
Never hide who you are or what you feel.
Boallods · 26-30, M
@PrivateHell Too late :X
KaiserSolze · 46-50, F
I'd be a hypocrite if I told you to express your feelings.

You have a good friendship. If that's enough then say nothing. If it isn't and you're both young free and single then say something because what is there to loose?
Abrienda · 26-30, F
Yes...Never EVER NOT tell someone you love them! My father once told me "Never thrown anyone's love away...they maybe the last person to do so." Thamk God I too his advice.
Boallods · 26-30, M
@Abrienda Too late now, though. Yet I hardly regret not telling it.
If you don’t think your friendships is gonna be the same or that you’re not willing to compromise your feelings for her from how she feels about you, then find another friend tbh.
BalmyNites · F
You said she already rejected you, just for telling her you liked her. So it seems the friendship was not what you thought it was?
Boallods · 26-30, M
@BalmyNites No. I just naïvely assumed my emotions would abate. But they didn't.
BalmyNites · F
@Boallods There's nothing worse than unrequited love
Sicarium · 46-50, M
Tell her, then decide if you want to be just friend. If not, leave the friendship and move on.
Boallods · 26-30, M
@Sicarium Wouldn't deciding beforewards be more prudent? I kinda already know what the reaction would be.
Sicarium · 46-50, M
@Boallods You think you know what her reaction will be, but you can't be certain until she reacts.
Prettybrat · 26-30, F
If she doesn't care that you like her why would she care if you're in love with her?
Boallods · 26-30, M
@Prettybrat She does care. Just not in *that* way. And that's not the point, in any case.
Yes, there’s no point in revealing further, especially if you want to at least maintain a friendship. 🙁

 
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