What's your thoughts on Jealousy in a relationship?

Jealousy, good or bad?
There's many forms of jealousy, some view it as cute and endearing while others toxic and unattractive.

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ViciDraco · 41-45, M

It's neither really. It is a natural emotion and we need to learn to own and manage it. Our jealousy is our own problem, not our partner's or anyone else's.

Fernie · F

@ViciDraco Many think it is a learned emotion....not a natural one...more feelings of fear and insecurity

ViciDraco · 41-45, M

@Fernie fear is natural, though what we are afraid of is often learned. My current view on jealousy is highly painted by what I read in a book titled The Ethical Slut which is a polyamory relationship book. Managing jealousy is definitely a common thread in poly relationships and understanding it is the first step toward managing it and not letting it control you.

Fernie · F

@ViciDracoI didn't like that whole paragraph. I don't think it's natural. It comes from insecurity which comes from life experiences and lousy role models. People loaded with self esteem and don't struggle with insecurity do not feel jealousy.

ViciDraco · 41-45, M

@Fernie perhaps I just haven't met people like that to witness it so my view has been colored by life experience.

Fernie · F

@ViciDraco Perhaps, as is true for so many of us, you haven't experienced real, pure love yet....you just think you do.