Is it normal to struggle with a healthy relationship when all you know are unhealthy ones?

For the first time in my life I am in a healthy relationship with someone who respects me, and wants to take things slow to build something that lasts.

I am used to being in relationships that were rushed, abusive, and unhealthy. I have been cheated on and used.

This guy though, is awesome, and has done nothing to make me doubt him or his intentions and yet I keep looking for signs in his words or actions because I feel like it is bound to happen. I don’t let it show because I know that is crazy enough to push anyone away but inside I am so anxious about it.

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4meAndyou · F

After being abused it is extremely hard to trust again. After my divorce I tried to date, and I found something wrong with every man I met. I was a one date wonder. It took me a long time, but eventually I realized that I had been too hurt to recover completely.

You might have a better chance than I. Try this: every single day find something about your new SO for which you are grateful and write it down. Eventually you will be able to read it like a diary, and the proof you seem to need will be there.