How do I get her out of my head?

The only thing I've found that truly helps is time but there are ways to nooge it along. If you have mementos, keepsakes, photos, letters, emails...get rid of them. You don't have to trash them...seal them in a box and give them to family or a friend to hang on to for you.

When you're better you can get them back if you still
want them. Any clothes or books or albums that were hers or remind you of her - in the box.

When your home is she-free, sit down and write her a letter. Tell her the things you would tell her if she was sitting beside you. Get it all out. Then visualize her sitting there silently and read her your letter. When you've finished, visualize her getting up and walking out the door forever. Do something dramatic with the letter - burn it or bury it or rip it to shreds and flush it.

I know it sounds hoky but it worked for me.

Good luck.

I can't really say with any certainty, but keeping your mind busy with new things, and allowing her free reign in your memories.

I know that second sounds counter-intuitive, but the harder you try to forget, the more impossible it will be. You know this to be true. Like trying to get "that damn song" out of your head, when it just keeps repeating. If you don't try to stop thinking about her, the thoughts will continue, but become less frequent and less hurtful, and one day, you'll,wake up, and remember and you'll realize it's been a few days since you last had a thought of her.

It isn't something you can do...it's something that happens when you stop trying to do it.

Have you considered military service? You could travel and get paid. You would have everything you need and you would not have time to think about her. This stage you are stuck in would evaporate.

You need distractions, the more distractions you have the less and less you will dwell in the past. Open a new page in the book of your life. Socialise, throw yourself into any hobbies or interests, be open and honest. It takes time. It will come.

Trying to answer all you guys. Yes I've tried dating again but man oh man I suck at the dating game and struck out on anyone decent near me. Distractions were the original idea but in this tiny town I live in there's not much here to distract me. Friends are pretty much non existent. Her memory mostly floods my mind at night. Sometimes I find myself getting sentimental and I dont want that. I dont want to feel anything for her anymore

Just let time happen. The more time goes by, it will get easier to handle those memories. My ex husband crosses my mind every now and then, but not all day everyday anymore. It's been 4 years since our divorce and those painful memories are still fresh in my head. Just hang in there because time heals all wounds.

Find a new gf

You might try getting involved with someone else. Have you been dating since your breakup, which was a year and a half ago?

Change your routine.

New ways of doing things open new doors.

In time your feelings for her will fade. Just try not to give those feelings additional power by dwelling on them. Acknowledge they are there but don't let them weigh you down.

Do new things, get a new life. Think about what you want.

In three to five years you will move on :)

Start looking again.