How do I get her out of my head?

It's been 17 months since our break up and yet most every day shes on my mind. Its actually pissing me off. I cant seem to rid her memory. There's no going back, I just want to move on. any suggestions?

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Mamapolo2016 · F

The only thing I've found that truly helps is time but there are ways to nooge it along. If you have mementos, keepsakes, photos, letters, emails...get rid of them. You don't have to trash them...seal them in a box and give them to family or a friend to hang on to for you.

When you're better you can get them back if you still
want them. Any clothes or books or albums that were hers or remind you of her - in the box.

When your home is she-free, sit down and write her a letter. Tell her the things you would tell her if she was sitting beside you. Get it all out. Then visualize her sitting there silently and read her your letter. When you've finished, visualize her getting up and walking out the door forever. Do something dramatic with the letter - burn it or bury it or rip it to shreds and flush it.

I know it sounds hoky but it worked for me.

Good luck.