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I want to kill myself.

I'm so hurt... Help me.
He came back to see me, he says he loves me. We have been on this on-and-off flirtationship for 5 years until now when he disclosed his feelings for me.
But then he feels guilty about his wife, and chose to be with her out of guilt.
She asked of him to give the last 2 weeks of his stay exclusively to her, since she knows she can't win my love for him, and he loves me is unable to love her.

I agreed to her terms and he did too.
Now he decides that maybe if we're both willing, we can start again in time to come, because he can't bring himself to even think about divorcing her. I hate him for reeling me in with false promises only to back out on his word.

I'm overwhelmed. I have mixed feelings. I don't know what to do. He and I knows we are so compatible with each other that even my mother recognises that. Like... soulmates. But he's all talk and no action. He did prove his love to me, but when it comes to the deal-breaker, he just can't. How can he even say that he truly loves me?!

I'm just at lost, I want to kill myself, or either go to the airport to send him off, and stab her to death. Isn't it crazy? I'm going nuts... Please save me. I can't hold myself together anymore.
Pretzel · 61-69, M
two basic rules of men with mistresses

1) they are liars
2) they will use you

all the romantic crap he whispers in your ear is meant to get your sympathy and keep you on the hook

he doesn't love you or he would
1) leave his wife or
2) be kind to you and leave you alone

those are simple truths

cut it off

be a stand up girl and support your fellow female who also is getting used by him

unless you truly love the drama

you deserve better
Snap. Way to kill it uncle buck. Answers were on point. 👍
SW-User
😮 whoa! Nothing is worth taking your own life . That guy is a giant POS . He's playing both of you . He doesn't love either one of you . Don't you think you deserve better then this ? When someone actually loves you they don't cheat on you . If he cheated on his wife with you ,he will cheat on you with someone else . This is a blessing in disguise . Do yourself a favor and move on . You can do this . He's a loser . Anyone who cheats is a selfish loser . When you think you deserve better you will have better . Be patient with yourself !
SW-User
Then you're no better the him . Get your mind right !
SW-User
Own up to your actions . You are responsible for your actions . Don't blame someone else for you cheating . Cheating is a choice , you're adult ,you know better .
listen to the guinea pig
THE truth of the matter is...IT IS TIME FOR YOU TO SAVE YOURSELF...you can do it..grow a pair...dump his sorry azz, and straighten your crown...
SW-User
Amen !
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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
Everyone here is right. Break the addiction and get away from this jerk.

One way to do that is to put aside your jealous temper and get in touch with his wife and ask her to meet with you at a good restaurant and buy her a good lunch. Ask her to meet with you without letting him know about it. Then tell her you want to hear what has happened from her point of view. Be kind and friendly and respectful and just listen to what she has to say. Then, if she wants to hear it, tell her what has gone on from your point of view.

Both of you will discover the huge lies he has been telling both of you. He is a manipulator who has figured out how to keep two women competing for him.

Learn the truth. Then, armed with that knowledge, break free from him. Expect the emotional withdrawal to take anywhere from weeks to months. It's a matter of waiting until your body chemistry catches up with your mind. Once the addiction is broken, you will feel so much better. Get away from this truly toxic man.

And don't look back.
SW-User
Why meet with her ? Just move on ...put it behind you ...you are not obligated to meet with her or him . ..
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
Just a technique for discovering his lies. Sometimes it can help to learn the truth. Of course there is no need to do it if she can just plain leave.
sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M
What?


No, no and just no.

Stay away from that.

Do not be a home wrecker.

Do not mingle with two timers.





Walk in her shoes, imagine how she feels to be betrayed.
He's suppose to love her til the end of time.


You saved yourself from his future betrayal of you.
Azoica · 26-30, F
He married her because he thought that no one else will love him, so he settled. They got married like 8 months ago. And he regrets his decision. He thought I was happy with someone else, and decided to agree to her when she asked him to marry her. (He was moving from Asia to Canada, so she's like "since you're going to Canada, marry me" and he got himself binded to her like that.
Youwish4me · 22-25, F
This man is bad
SW-User
Don't destroy your life over one douche bag, there will be more love with someone else, believe me I've been with enough douche bags.
Azoica · 26-30, F
I had my fair share of them too.

Believe me, he was the one after me, and I treated him like nothing. Made him cried several times, he felt cheated when I didn't tell him everything etc. Until I eventually fell in love with him, but he wasn't ready to divorce her.
SW-User
If he isn't willing to be with you he's not worth your time
Leave him alone. He is married. Have some respect for yourself and his wife and don't mess with him.

Save yourself and don't be stupid:.

 
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