My girlfriend hangs out with a girl that she used to crush so hard on

And I really don't like it. I makes me very uncomfortable. I really wish that it didn't make me uncomfortable but, it does. They were friends for about 8 months before her and I met. They are going to pride with a group of friends Saturday and my gf asked me to go but, I'm not going. She says they've never hooked up or kissed but it still makes me uncomfortable. I'm being too weird aren't I? Ugh, I can't help it! Am I wrong for being uncomfortable about it?

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Serenitree · F

Get used to the fact that you will be running into people she used to crush on, or fantasize about. Just because you weren't her first love, doesn't mean you won't be the last, unless she feels you don't trust her. That could wear thin after a while.

Don't ask her to drop past friends or she may decide it's too high a price to pay.

LyricalOne · F

You either trust her or you don’t. If you trust her, there’s no sense in being uncomfortable. If you don’t, there’s not much of a relationship.

Curious why you’re not going to pride.

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Keepitsimple98 · 31-35, F

@LyricalOne I strike you as an outsider and being kinda immature?

LyricalOne · F

@Keepitsimple98 Strikes me, as someone who doesn’t know you at all, therefore with a completely neutral opinion, that your not going to pride for the reason you stated is kinda immature.

Keepitsimple98 · 31-35, F

@LyricalOne I really don't want to spoil her time out because im going to be in a bad mood

Davidarendale · 36-40, M

Your user name is keepitsimple though It sounds like your doing everything but that. If it bothers you so much then explain your feelings to your GF and ask her not to go. If she goes anyway or doesn't go but makes you miserable the whole time she isn't at pride fest then break up with her.

Keepitsimple98 · 31-35, F

@Davidarendale my question is, am I wrong for being uncomfortable about it.

Davidarendale · 36-40, M

No. If you had a boy friend and he hung out a lot with a girl that he really crushed on not too long ago and then was planning to go on a trip with (without you) anyone would tell you to ask him to cut that s*** out and if he didn't then dump him. Is this situation any different cause everyone involved is the same sex?

Keepitsimple98 · 31-35, F

@Davidarendale True!!! Thank you!

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

It's just your head
Women always have a mental worry about exes or crushes.
They don't mean anything. That was then, this is now. And right now you and your girlfriend are luvved up.

Why is it you can't go on this gig ?
Do you worry every time you can't do something together ?

Keepitsimple98 · 31-35, F

@Picklebobble2 No I don't worry, every time. I just don't want to be awkward and ruin her time out

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@Keepitsimple98 Then rephrase your question because it reads like you're terrified she's about to cheat on you !!!

SW-User

See you answered your own question. You said she used to crush on her.

Keepitsimple98 · 31-35, F

@SW-User No, my question is, am I wrong for being uncomfortable about it.

SW-User

@Keepitsimple98 yeah. She don't crush on her anymore. She likes you. Just chill.

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