is my married friend trying to get in bed with me?

He asked me out for a bite today and since we’re classmates and friends, i thought it was cool. He started holding my hand in the car and massaging it and i just ignored it and kept talking. He even said “let me take you out on a real date.” I said no, then called me boring. He also started playing with my hair, which i kept ignoring. He started talking about my virginity saying that it’s a treasure and what not and that guys like it because they’re in control. Then he said “we should hold hands like this in private but not at school.” Then continued to complain about his wife. He has a kid too. Is he looking for trouble because it seems like it

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indyjoe · 56-60, M

Personally I think his wife has a right to know about this. The problem is it could cost you her friendship...the best thing you can do is stay away from him completely and then if your friend notices your sudden distance and asks...be honest and tell her why. Otherwise I really don't know what to tell you.

Flipabee · 26-30, F

I have to thank his wife for calling when he was holding my hand because i was getting scared. Lol @indyjoe

indyjoe · 56-60, M

@Flipabee I agree with one other reply that said not to ignore any more of his advances and to tell him to stop or you will tell his wife...however I still stand by what I said, that you should tell her anyway. She is your friend and you are most likely not his only target (and consider how many times he may have already been successful). As a person who has been cheated on by someone I was married to...I can say that when I found out all of the people who knew what was happening and didn't make any effort to bring it to my attention I was quite ticked off about it. She may not believe you and might even get angry, but she will get angry if she finds out you knew (and even was one of his "victims") and didn't tell her too (and in the former she will get over it and maybe even thank you). Just something to consider in deciding what you want to do. Just stay away from him and good luck to you.😉