@SW-User Did you read what I posted up above, dear one? I cannot think of anything that would work. Do people become lax when they move in together? I think so. During dating, people tend to be extra careful about being nice, being caring, being attentive, etc. If they don't, that might be an early red flag. I also think that women tend to think that because they live with a man, the man will commit at some point. That isn't necessarily true. Some people will say that marriage isn't a commitment, but it is certainly a way of saying you have created a bond. And hopefully that bond will last a lifetime. I think many men will say also that if she is living with me, that is good enough. Why should we marry? And statistics show that those who live together before marriage are more likely to divorce than those who don't. I don't have the numbers but that is true. I am starting to think that the only other solution is to create a marriage contract. Finances don't particularly interest me in that people say it is cold and calculating to think like that ie a person will clean me out if we divorce. This contract would define clear ideas; for example, how many children would be acceptable to both; issues about intimacy ie if intimacy ended for whatever reason, what the consequences would be; and other such guidelines. I used to think it was mercenary, but now, not so much. I find that is acceptable in the beginning seems to change to the other person along the line. Otherwise, I am open to any suggestions.
