What would you prefer?

Poll - Total Votes: 23

Marrying before moving in.

Moving in while dating.

You can only vote on one answer.

Note that the divorce rates went up to 50% first marriages, 67% on the second, and 73% on the third. The main reasons for this is forgetting their vows, respect, and vulnerability for one another (meaning to leave selfishness and ego out of the relationship).

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Travelbug · 56-60, F

I refuse to live with a man. I have my place and he should have his.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@Travelbug There is a term for that. And isn't that more like long-term dating? People can leave when they don't get their way. Is that really a long-term commitment? Freedom and rules, both?

Travelbug · 56-60, F

@PoetryNEmotion I dont want a long term commitment. I like my own space.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@Travelbug Why not? You want a boyfriend with benefits then!

Travelbug · 56-60, F

@PoetryNEmotion my last long term relationship lasted 12 years with us both having our own homes and space. We were very happy and hardly ever had a cross word.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@Travelbug It is a different option. Why did it end may I ask?

Travelbug · 56-60, F

@PoetryNEmotion sadly he got cancer

PoetryNEmotion · F

@Travelbug Sorry to hear that. Your arrangement doesn't seem to promote commitment to me. It is like long-term dating. I would have to think about it. What do you do when you have kids then? I know you are older. If you wished to have kids?

Travelbug · 56-60, F

@PoetryNEmotion neither of us could have kids. It worked well for us as we both liked our own space. And you know what? We missed each other too, so when we did meet up it was wonderful.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@Travelbug I am glad it worked out so well. Thanks for chatting. One more question: have all of your relationships been like this and successful too?

Travelbug · 56-60, F

My marriage wasn't happy, but since then I've lived both alone and with someone and living alone works best for me.