@Masood22003

Masood22003 · 46-50, M

When she is not willing to do what I need. I have to cheat.

To each his own, but I cannot disagree with you more. There are things my wife isn't comfortable with and things she simply refuses to even try, but I could not and would not in good faith and conscience do them with any other woman. Love and intimacy are "needs"...specific acts are not and they can be lived without. Sure they are desires and would make the sexual experience even more exciting, interesting, and enjoyable but they aren't absolute necessities. To me, that statement was very selfish.

@indyjoe I can understand and truly appreciate your honesty

If my man gave me an ultimatum such as let me have anal or I will be forced to get it elsewhere.... I'd give him what he wanted


That being said I love anal so I can understand your plight but don't understand how y feel no guilt whatsoever.

Well first of all, I don't care for anal myself so that's not a big deal that it the thing she refuses to even try. Secondly, it's oral sex that she's not comfortable giving however she will do it for me on occasion (and she does love to have it done to her) so again it's no big deal. Now...I would never give my wife an ultimatum and make her feel forced or pressured into giving me something sexually that I may want (I have way too much love and respect for her to do something like that). To me, her sharing her body and sexuality with me is a gift in itself...a precious gift....she does it because she loves me and wants to and not because she feels obligated to. I don't understand you say the part about how I feel no guilt whatsoever...guilt over what? I couldn't enjoy sex if I thought for one moment she wasn't enjoying it or was doing something reluctantly, it is then that I would feel a sense of guilt.

@FunReader55 You are truly a gentleman and your wife has found a diamond. Good for both of you. It's lovely to know true romance is still alive.

@Mikado Thank you but were faaaar from perfect!! I just don’t mess up in that particular area!! Lol! Very kind words rhough, thx!!

@SW-User Oh yeah? how many years?

@indyjoe Counting that we lived together for a few years, 34. 😊

@SW-User Congratulations...I hope I live long enough to share 30 or more years with my wife.🤠

@Joe5663 I've never cheated before...have thought about it in the past when feeling neglected but couldn't go through with it.

The guilt would kill me

I feel the same way

@Mikado There are more loyal men than what you may think.
And the alarming trend include both genders, as long as it seems.
Sorry if this happended to you.
From the heart, I wish you the best for the future.

@CharlieZ I'm only suspecting it's happened to me because of things I'd found on my hubby's phone...I'm keeping a watch out now though and it hurts to think he might do that to me. Thank you for your kind words and for being a good man ♥

@Mikado 🌈

@76starships thanks for your honesty it helps me understand.

@sighmeupforthat no not man hate at all. Just curiosity as where I come from it happens often. So far reading these replies has helped retain some faith. But I'm still curious to know what makes a man cheat when he is in love.

I know some women cheat too.
But I'm only interested in why men do it

Hope that clears it up for you
FYI I love men!