My ex just asked me to go out for ice cream later... I'm not sure what to do?

We're on good terms right now, but honestly knowing him if I say yes he's going to take it the wrong way and think it's an okay to date again which it isn't. Also knowing him, even though we're not together he probably bought be a ridiculously expensive present like he usually does and I'm not comfortable or okay with that. The problem is that I don't know how to say no without setting him off or making him mad and when he's mad he's terrifying. I don't need to deal with the stress or him going around being an ass over this.

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indyjoe · 56-60, M

Not meaning to sound abrupt...but the best thing you can do is don't go. Your ex is in the past, leave him there. Don't get trapped in a vicious cycle. If you've got a new relationship and someone with you now, don't jeopardize it.

NaturallyPeculiar · 26-30, F

@indyjoe I'm not going back to him. The problem is that saying no to him is hard because he can get pretty scary crazy about it. Trust me, if I could just stop all communication and kick him from my life I would- but to do that I would have to move far, far away where he can't find me and that's not possible at the moment.

indyjoe · 56-60, M

@NaturallyPeculiar I understand completely. Far too many times an ex refuses to admit that something is over, that a former love is gone and try to hold (even forcibly through rage intimidation and even violence). Hopefully he'll get tired eventually and give up/move on. I hope the best for you, I really do.