How did those who divorced after many years of marriage find the strength to live on ? 21 yrs...

Did she leave you? I’m sorry for your divorce.

LindaM · 61-69, F

I was with my ex for 29 years, I survived when we broke up fell in love again when it ended I thought I would die but then I realized how stupid it was and that I had a life to live and that's what I am doing...it will be ok...my dads name was Alphonse lol :)

Thingschange4444 · 51-55, M

I was married 25. And with her for 30. We split in Jan 2015 and she died in my car Sept 2016. We remained great friends and it really was until death do us part. You will move on. It's hard af at first but trust me u will move on. You have to.

4meAndyou · F

I lived with the ex for 5 years before we married, and then we were married for 25 years. I think the saddest thing about a divorce is that you re-live all of the good times you had together after you split up, and you forget...almost completely...all of the bad things, or the reason for the divorce. That is what happened to me, anyway. I gave in to "remembering the good times", and actually tried to reconcile, and then I remembered every single bad time, and experienced many, many more very, very bad times.

It is easy for me to live on...because I was escaping from something horrible. I am sorry for your pain.

sspec

No desire to live on is agreeable in your scenario but is there any choice really!!!
One has to Live.

So, might as well Live willingly accepting those moments spent in togetherness to be the supporting pillar.

I send you energy to identify with your hidden strength soon. 🌞

Beebo · M

I went thru the same thing. I been single now for 12 yrs, but actually love being single. But my biggest point is, we all adjust thru time. Whether we remarry, or find that perfect relationship, or just staying single. Sorry it happened to ya, it happens to many.

Angelwithdirtywings · 56-60, F

I left a 30 yr dead marrage a year and a half ago. I don't understand the "I can't go on" yes you can. Its up to you how you move forward. It can be bad or good, but that's up to you.

NiftyWhite · 46-50, F

i’m not divorced but before i was recently married i had a relationship that broke and it broke my heart and i never really moved on from it. the only thing i could do was sever that part of my life from my consciousness try to forget that it even happened which isn’t easy and then i found temporal distance made it somewhat easier. honestly i thought half a decade later it would be easier but i still struggle with it at times.

SW-User

Maybe avoid dating again too soon
Make new plans and goals, work on yourself perhaps

Lolco · 36-40, M

I’m sorry for your divorce too ..... just know that you’re not alone & many (millions) go through this & somehow they find the strength to move on.... many call it a blessing & day life gets better on both end ....

firefall · 61-69, M

I'm right there with you. 23 years married, 26 years together, and I thought we were everything to eachother. If you find out how to carry on, let me know, ok?

SW-User

Because of your 50 shades!

Honeylove · 46-50, F

I'm so sorry 🤗

Giana · 70-79, F

Sorry...