How many couples are in a Female-led relationship?

It can be loosely defined or very structured but I think the FLR is right for a lot of couples.

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So basically you do house chores and she takes the reins, is that what you mean? She gets to be the alpha and you get to be the housewife? I don't think we need THOSE roles female-led or male-led. I think we are equals and as such we can do a partnership so we define the structure of the things we want to do or agree to do. But in my humble opinion, if you reverse your natural male role, not talking about being aggressive or a jerk, but being male, a man and losing the ability to lead, how do you think she will feel if she takes the reins? Anyway, just my two cents here, mate

CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F

@StargazingMan Huh? Male = naturally/biologically/socially destined to be the leader in a relationship?

StargazingMan · 46-50, M

@CoffeeFirst It is a subject of controversy and we can question its validity from a social, biological and even from a natural point of view. I think he doesn't need to lose his role and give it to her because maybe she doesn't want to be the leader. Maybe she is a successful leader outside the house, at work, and when she comes home she has to be the leader too? Maybe she wants this and good luck to them. But most women don't want to take the role of the leader in the relationship and this doesn't mean losing her strength and values as female. Maybe, that is why I said to him, maybe they can both work this out as having co-shared roles, not necessarily his role is to lead and do nothing and she gets the typical role of do everything in the house. I don't believe this. We can both do our jobs and roles and have some sort of co-lead. Eventually, one will lead based on what they want and how they feel. But to me, his post reeked in she is the leader, the absolute leader and I get the role of being the housewife. That means losing a lot more. But if he is happy, happy he is.

blindbob · 41-45

@StargazingMan some relationships look traditional from the outside, but actually the woman leads at home and the man leads outside of the home. for example, growing up i knew couples where the man just handed his check over to his wife every pay day. she gave him money for beer and then she managed all the finances. she made all of the decisions regarding the household and the family. she let him know what they could afford and what they couldn't. those relationships seemed to work well as there was mutual respect (she respected where the money was from and he respected her decision-making regarding the family's needs). i think it takes a lot of mutual trust and respect for that to work.