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Could a relationship ever go back to normal if the couple made up after one of them cheats?

I don't think so.

bijouxbroussard · F Best Comment

Depends on the couple and the circumstances. People have managed to regain trust after infidelity and rebuild the relationship. But it would take a lot of work, and a willingness on both sides to make a go of it.

Zoranna · F

@bijouxbroussard Well said Bijoux.

SW-User

No, because if the trust has been broken once it can never be fully repaired

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Bluesky53 · 61-69, M

@SW-User right,betrayal,,,,it was over as soon as she cheated,,,,but I got last laugh,this time I've been married 10 years,together 12,,,,,

SW-User

@ChiChi93 It depends on the partner. Some will let a cheater back in and try moving on as if it never happened. Most will end it, as they should. That's why I'm saying once the trust is broken, it's never the same.
Once trust is lost in a relationship, it can't ever be fully recovered.

SW-User

@SW-User that's a story we like to tell but i'm not so sure it reflects reality.

daveal · 56-60, M

It will never go back to the way it was, but it can recover.

CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F

We recovered post-affair but because of several things, we have a visceral mistrust. However, we are more in love today than ever.

Bluesky53 · 61-69, M

@CoffeeFirst every relationship is different,,,,i'm glad you'rs worked out,

goagainsttheflow · 26-30, F

Nah, because then one is always suspicious of the other. It's just not the same anymore.

SW-User

Normal as in exactly the same as before? probably not. But it could build its own new "normal" with time, communication and dedication of both ends, if they both believe there's something worth saving, that is.

L33TH4X0R · 41-45, M

Trust is like a piece of paper, once crumpled it can never be perfect again. If someone has cheated it means they no longer have any respect for you. If they did have, they would not have cheated in the first place.

Newandimproved · 61-69, M

happened to me. forgave...never forgot

I don't think about if often but sometimes....

ChiChi93 · 26-30, F

@Newandimproved Must hurt, I'm sorry.

Newandimproved · 61-69, M

@ChiChi93 doesn't hurt now...well not much

Bluesky53 · 61-69, M

I've been cheated on when I was married the first time,,,,i forgave,but the desire wasn't there,

CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F

These are overall some pretty depressing, negative views. I get that every relationship is different...never mind.

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CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F

@daveal Hard won happiness, very hard.

daveal · 56-60, M

@CoffeeFirst maybe more realistic happiness?

CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F

@daveal I would say eyes wide open happiness. Divorce is still an option, if we are not getting our needs met with one another. Meanwhile, we confront the hard stuff every single day because we know the rewards will come.

HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

It happened to one of my friends. The relationship was better than it was before that and lasted for three more years. They broke up nicely after that because of issues completely unrelated to cheating or jealousy.

ChiChi93 · 26-30, F

@HannibalAteMeOut Wow, they're definitely a minority. But good for them I guess. Heartbreak from cheating is the worst.

HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

@ChiChi93 I was totally calling her the worst names when she forgave him lol but after a while I couldn't believe in my own eyes! It's like he was a completely different person! Must be one in a billion, though.

midnightrose · F

It changes. A couple can make a newer, better relationship but you always know it happened. It won't be the same.

If you think about it, what you had was vulnerable to an affair so why would you want that back?

Cutiepi23

Not to normal there will always be suspicion they may do it again no matter how sorry they seem. It's not impossible for it to be repaired though. Really depends on a lot of different things.