At what point is ogling acceptable?

@tynamite but if youre with your significant other, is that okay as well?

@Misskc23 Look at it this way. As long as he is giving his best product to his girlfriend, everything is funkydory and fine. 😁

and what if he isnt? what if he says he imagines having sex with other people but he cant with his girlfriend?

@Misskc23 Either he is settling or she is a very good girlfriend to him.

what do you mean settling?

@Misskc23 The more attractive a man is, the more attractive women they can get. If he is not attractive enough, he is limited in the type of women he can get.

@Misskc23 Then he's crossed the line.

are you suggesting she break up with him?

@Misskc23 No I'm not suggesting that. Women settle too. They could both be settling with each other.

but its something that should not be ignored though, right? its like a small snowball, itll eventually get bigger

@Misskc23 As my friend from mensa says, in the free market where we are free to accept and reject whatever we want, some people cannot compete. This is natural.

It might not even be about settling. The boyfriend could be devoid of love, incapable of feeling the emotion love, so to him, everyone is of the same calibre and everyone is interchangeable.

My advice is not to worry about it and ignore it. People get into relationships for all sorts of reasons, and you can never truly know their reasons. Just let them live their life and be happy with their choices and what they have xD

To answer your question, if you're with someone in a monogamous committed relationship for 20 years, you're going to get cheated on anyway. It's just a matter of whether you know about it or not. And if it's not them doing the cheating, you're doing the cheating instead.

@tynamite best advice of the day. thanks!

@Misskc23 Ask him privately if he wants to get married forever to his SERIOUS girlfriend when no one else is around (so he doesn't lie in public). If he says no, you know his secret that he is devoid of love