At what point is ogling acceptable?
My friend states hes got a "wandering eye" and hes got a serious girlfriend. Is this considered a red flag for girls or is there a fine line?
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Misskc23 · 31-35, F
@SW-User same sentiments. but how do you deal with it if he says its a long term problem of his?
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@Misskc23 I've never had a problem calling him out on bs. And this was one of them... unfortunately.
I caught it twice, and shut it down immediately.
It's just a matter of talking things out, and trying to understand one another.
Men don't see it the same way us women do... but I made it clear I wasn't going to stick around for that ridicule.
I caught it twice, and shut it down immediately.
It's just a matter of talking things out, and trying to understand one another.
Men don't see it the same way us women do... but I made it clear I wasn't going to stick around for that ridicule.
Justbychance · M
Misskc23 · 31-35, F
@Justbychance what do you think in your opinion? if youre signifcant other was to do it to you?
dragonfly46 · F
Just because I'm on a diet does not mean that I can't look at the menu.
We all look, it's about respect. You look but your partner never ever sees you are doing it. Sometimes my man and I look together. There are some beautiful people out there.
We all look, it's about respect. You look but your partner never ever sees you are doing it. Sometimes my man and I look together. There are some beautiful people out there.
kayoshin · 36-40, M
The fact is everyone who isn't asexual looks at atractive people (whatever it is they consider atractive). But if they don't have the decency or ability to control themselves as to not make it obvious how can you expect them to have more self control or decency when they are sure they are not seen? Personally I think you are harming no one by looking but you shouldn't if you have someone out of respect for that person, you might hurt their feelings or the other people who start saying "i bet he/she is cheating on that poor girl/guy you see how he/she is oggling people all the time?" might hurt their feelings by treating them as someone pitiful. In short have some respect, don't stare unless you're single.
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sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M
@Pianist1234 replace "guy" with your name here.
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tynamite · 31-35, M
Men staring at attractive women is completely normal.
tynamite · 31-35, M
@Misskc23 As my friend from mensa says, in the free market where we are free to accept and reject whatever we want, some people cannot compete. This is natural.
It might not even be about settling. The boyfriend could be devoid of love, incapable of feeling the emotion love, so to him, everyone is of the same calibre and everyone is interchangeable.
My advice is not to worry about it and ignore it. People get into relationships for all sorts of reasons, and you can never truly know their reasons. Just let them live their life and be happy with their choices and what they have xD
To answer your question, if you're with someone in a monogamous committed relationship for 20 years, you're going to get cheated on anyway. It's just a matter of whether you know about it or not. And if it's not them doing the cheating, you're doing the cheating instead.
It might not even be about settling. The boyfriend could be devoid of love, incapable of feeling the emotion love, so to him, everyone is of the same calibre and everyone is interchangeable.
My advice is not to worry about it and ignore it. People get into relationships for all sorts of reasons, and you can never truly know their reasons. Just let them live their life and be happy with their choices and what they have xD
To answer your question, if you're with someone in a monogamous committed relationship for 20 years, you're going to get cheated on anyway. It's just a matter of whether you know about it or not. And if it's not them doing the cheating, you're doing the cheating instead.
pampersmom11 · 26-30, F
I believe everyone looks looking is natural so look dont touch.
SageWanderer · 70-79, M
My wife says you can look....but you better not touch!
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Jimmyorjames · M
If it's there to see, I'm gona look...
It doesn't always mean I'm gona be weird about it, or push my luck, but I'm definitely gona look, unless I don't like it of course 😛
It doesn't always mean I'm gona be weird about it, or push my luck, but I'm definitely gona look, unless I don't like it of course 😛
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It can be a red flag if he acts on it or it disrupts time they spend together. Up to them to figure out the boundaries.
sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M
poor manners are still poor manners
bijouxbroussard · F
Looking is normal. Staring is rude. Not being able to control oneself so that a partner is not aware is a sign the person’s not ready to settle down.
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
It depends. I dont know the guy.