Do We Affect Each Other?

There are those who say another person cannot make you, or bring you happiness. If we follow this logic, then it would also mean that another person cannot make you sad, or bring you sadness. Cannot break your heart, or make you angry, or annoyed. You also would not derive happiness from your children or grandchildren. This line of reasoning does not compute because unless we are psychopaths or on the cold side of the emotional spectrum, we know very well that our emotions are affected by others, whether it be positive or negative emotions.

Common sense tells us the truth. We see it in our own lives, and the lives of others. We are all interconnected, and some people bring us joy, some bring us misery, and some affect us somewhere on the emotional spectrum, but they do affect us.

Some argue that it's our choice how we respond. To a certain degree this is correct, but the response comes after the feeling, it does not negate the feeling. We may feel sad, but carry on and put on a brave face in public, but the sadness is still there, it's just being covered up. Our actions may be that of a happy person, but we still feel the pain inside, so this argument that we choose our response is correct, however, saying that "I choose to feel happy," when your lover has just dumped you is a cover up. You don't really feel happy, you're just pretending.

So this, [i][b]"no one can make you happy or sad, or make or break your day[/b][/i] is a crock. Other people have had an effect on our feelings and emotions since the day we were born.