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What is the proper way to contact someone after a date?

In my 22 years, this is the first time I actually went on a date that I enjoyed. But now I don鈥檛 know how to react. Should I text her? 馃 she hasn鈥檛 texted me, so maybe I shouldn鈥檛... but how about if she鈥檚 thinking she shouldn鈥檛 either because I didn鈥檛 text her? Then we are just in a stalemate. I don鈥檛 want to come off as needy or annoying tho....

abe18246-50, M
Forget the games. If you want to contact her contact her! She might just like that.
abe18246-50, M
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DonaldTrumpet70-79, M
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abe18246-50, M
[@467787,DonaldTrumpet] they should just stick to naked pillow fights
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Gosh, I was always the kind who'd just contact and whatever happened, happened
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[@467787,DonaldTrumpet] what on earth is that 馃
DonaldTrumpet70-79, M
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tenente90-99, M
keep it short: had a great time, hope you did to. would like to see you again.
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juiceyangel33326-30, F
Say hello
Carla61-69, F
I would actually call her.
If you had a good time, it's likely that she did too.
The timeline makes no difference. If you do it soon, it serves to let her know that she is on your mind. To me, that would be a good thing
I say text her. The worst that can happen is you find out she's not into it, which is something you're better off knowing anyways.
DonaldTrumpet70-79, M
Phillyphan7841-45, F
I would text just once and tell her you had a great time, thank her and see if she wants to go out again. Then ball is in her court.
ncgremlin56-60, M
You should text her saying you a good time and hope she did to and hope you can do it again soon
If a simple thank you text after a nice date, pushes her away, than there are bigger issues. Best to know now.
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Say,"Hey I had a great time with you, and I hope to do it again sometime."
Wraithorn51-55, M
Just contact her. What have you got to lose ?
ElSenordeLosCielos22-25, F
My self esteem [@385840,Wraithorn]
Wraithorn51-55, M
[@436099,MorbidCynic] Well then start gently by just letting her know you actually enjoyed the date and wouldn't mind doing it again.
By having the courage to do that you are being the more mature person and not losing self esteem.
Tell your logical mind to step forward and your imagination to take a back seat for now.

Possibly you enjoyed the date because she actually paid attention to you. If you want her to feel good then pay attention to her with a message.
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I've always contacted people date or not to say I had fun and thank them for their time. I don't think anyone nowadays would think "wow I liked her but since she texted me so fast ew nvm" And if they don't, then who cares what they think anyways
DonaldTrumpet70-79, M
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DragonFruit61-69, M
Don鈥檛 make it into a game of chicken....she might also be insecure about contacting you.
If nobody makes contact, you鈥檒l never know.....better to know if she doesn鈥檛 want a 2nd date than to not find out because neither of you said anything.

鈥淵ou miss 100% of the shots you don鈥檛 take.鈥
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ElSenordeLosCielos22-25, F
Oof [@467787,DonaldTrumpet]
SirEgoDeathTheFirst26-30, M
When did you went out with her? First date? I guess. I think you should wait 2 days before contacting her. If she texts you before the 2 days shes into you and you should text her back
ElSenordeLosCielos22-25, F
It was yesterday 馃 so maybe a little soon. It鈥檚 been less than 24 hours haha [@976393,EgoDeath]
SirEgoDeathTheFirst26-30, M
[@436099,MorbidCynic] in the 3rd day you should text her. But not first thing in the morning...wait until 8-8.30 pm
Dude, don't believe what Hollywood tells you regarding how long you should 'wait'.. if you had a good time with her, then tell her, then set up another date/activity and ask if she would be interested...
Text her because two girls never making any moves leads to nothing

Edit: my bad I didn鈥檛 see you were a guy lol. Yeah text her still
ElSenordeLosCielos22-25, F
Loool the male on my profile is just a joke that I can鈥檛 change until the end of November 馃槀[@648154,Freudianslip13]
Back to square one. Yeah text her. 3 years ago I was afraid to message the girl I liked and same for her and now we are engaged. You鈥檝e got nothing to lose just be friendly! [@436099,MorbidCynic]
I don't think there's anything wrong with saying to someone I had a great time and would like to see you again. But that's it. If they don't text back then leave it be any more is needy.
SirEgoDeathTheFirst26-30, M
You have lots of comments on this quesrion man and some of us are curious so let us know what you actually did/will do
ElSenordeLosCielos22-25, F
I will lol I will give it until tomorrow and then I will send a text 馃 that way I don鈥檛 feel like a creep 馃槀[@976393,EgoDeath]
luckranger7151-55, M
wait about 3/4 days, text her and ask for another date. Keeps the mystery going to some degree. If she reaches out in the interim then make another date.
DonaldTrumpet70-79, M
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