I Have a Cheating Husband Update: I just found a text this morning on my husbands phone. I...

RsBrat

I am sorry, it sounds like you are really hurting over it. I don't think you want to confront it because you fear it could be the end of your relationship. Ignoring it is easier. I think you need to decide before you confront him if you want the marriage. If you make the decision one way or the other it will be easier to deal with. If you want the marriage then I think you need to talk to him and let him know that and that you want to work through it. I think you do or you would have confronted it before.
I was cheated on before. It hurts. I would have stayed and even been open to having an open marriage, but at the time I decided upon revenge first. That was not my best idea. But that is an entire other story.

dec2remember86

Just reading this I noticed you said she is on base. If it's a us military instillation simply go to the most with what you have. Yes it will cause a stir but it may snap him and her into reality. Also you can get the services you need to get free of him.
I feel for you being in a sexless marriage. It's frustrating I know from experience. You are a better person then me for not going outside to get the release you need I have failed as a husband before and I try not to make the same mistakes twice but it happens. I wish you luck and the nest out come dear

dirtfarmer2

I would wager that the sex is not the issue. What is the issue is that he is doing it behind your back. He is clearly non-monogamous and that probably will not change regardless of any choice that you give him. Have you considered an open relationship? Then there would be no reason for secrets.

jp56

I am sorry to hear that you have now gotten proof positive of what you already knew deep in your heart. Why the hell would anybody judge you over this? I only wish you were strong enough and brave enough to walk away from him permanently. He does not deserve you or a family. I also am PM ing you.

TheMetalRooster

I'm sorry that this happened. I know you've mentioned before that divorce didn't seem like an option. Does it seem like one now?

Jennerrous

I would plan your life without him but don't tell him.

Make moves to get your own place and just go.

Then you won't have to tell him. He will just see it. That's the real revenge.

Pdfreen

You have to handle it in your way and your time, give yourself the respect you deserve is the only advise i will give you, i had to face the same thing years ago!

niceind

Is it time to start afresh? Just a question... without judging anyone here...

jackknows

I don't believe there is any shame putting your needs first considering your situation.

goodoldboy

i would like to comfort you

curiousinomaha

I won't judge you at all, let alone harshly.

meddo01

please add me

tommyzmt13

What a bum.