I Have a Cheating Husband

Update:

I just found a text this morning on my husbands phone. I wasn't snooping. I went to unplug his phone and found texts.

one asked him to pick up some condoms. another asked why he was ignoring her.

according to google she lives on ba<x>se. oh boy.

i texted her and she just told me to quit it. she didn't care how i found her phone number. I totally was gonna confront her and ask how long?

I couldn't do it. I don't know why.

Like the stds he gave me several years ago, and the condoms weren't enough evidence of cheating? For some reason seeing the text made it seem much more real.

I feel stressed and anxious. Its a gross panicky feeling. I don't like it.

i don't know why THIS is the evidence that makes it more real, but it does.

Just needed to share it with someone who won't judge me too harshly.

I don't know how to confront him and I'm scared too. I don't know why.

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dirtfarmer2

I would wager that the sex is not the issue. What is the issue is that he is doing it behind your back. He is clearly non-monogamous and that probably will not change regardless of any choice that you give him. Have you considered an open relationship? Then there would be no reason for secrets.

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

hes rejected me since 2 wks of marriage

i quit asking, I won't initiate with him anymore. sometimes I cry myself to sleep if I try to get a hug from him and he gives me the loosest definition of a hug. or if I try to get him to cuddle with me in bed and hes just NOT sleepy or whatever.

we are religious and chances are, he would not do open relationship. i dont think I could do it either. ti would make me feel cheap, and like there is NO relationship. thats just me and MY nature.

its funny hes cheating because when we first got married he kept on going on and on and on about being a "one woman man" and how if I cheat, its OVER because thats what his first wife did to him. and she cheated on him because of not enough sex and family time. oh joy.

and even if we did do it openly, i'm not so sure he even knows how to be honest. he likes it to have his own man "business" without a woman asking questions and such.

NHotH2O

He's a sad excuse for a responsible husband/father. I am not a cheater otherwise I would offer you my company to keep you cuddled and comforted. You seem like a fine woman. I feel for your pain.

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

Thank you