Would like a few male views/thoughts Say you were clicking with a woman and were becoming good...

GoFish ·

if they really like her it shouldn't be a problem

Jimbo7 · M

Mother wants to know what your name is .

Jimbo7 · M

As long as you got along with mother it wouldn't matter

kodiac · 26-30, M

It wouldn't turn me off ,i'd tell her i have the same issues and probably more.

IM5688 · 70-79, M

I would be reassuring to her. I would give her the time she needs to adjust and to feel comfortable in our social settings. I would not rush her or pressure her or force her into anything that would make her uncomfortable.
I personally have pounds of patience and tons of tolerance and am very easy going, so I would have no problem giving it a chance.

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TheHammer · M

No, id ask her where she'd like to go that would make her feel less anxious.

Rabbit420 · 70-79, M

If "A" she began to feel panicked I would give her a second chance if she explained to me what was happening.
If "B" and she forewarned me then I would definitely give her a second chance!!

JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M

Meet up at a safe, familiar place, like your couch.

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Cigarguys · 41-45, C

Joel is with me and im a ocd, ptsd mess. Just be honest with them if they run it wasn't meant to be. Everyone has issues, baggage and truma. You just gotta find the right person that's helps you along the way

wildbill83 · 41-45, M

fine by me, not overly fond of large social groups/gatherings either. I'd rather keep dating simple/more personal anyways

novaguy2u · 80-89, M

I would hope that most men would be smart enough and sufficiently open-minded to respect the lady's issue/s and be prepared to offer support and continue to explore a possible future relationship.

cherny

A decent man would understand and take things at your own pace . Would be patient and kind ...if they were truly interested in pursuing a relationship with you

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Iineedamommy · 18-21, M

Absolutely because either way if she's getting panicked that means she doesn't want to miss anything up and she really likes you at least that's what I got from it

ImperialAerosolKidFromEP · 51-55, M

A has the potential to catch me flat-footed, but B would likely smooth things over

CountScrofula · 41-45, M

I'd be fine with it I married someone with pretty severe anxiety and I was aware of her mental health troubles going in. However that's an individual concern and it will vary by the man. But a good person who is right for you will be PATIENT and let you ease in at your own pace.

twiigss · M

Oh it's not a problem for me. I would suggest going somewhere else where she's not feeling panicked. I would do my part in comforting her, making her feel safe and calm.

Mindfulness

I would try and avoid social situations that might trigger her.
I would ask about her coping mechanisms and how I could best help if she were to have an attack when with me.

BrandNewMan · 61-69, M

If there is a connection there I would expect to try and find a way to work with it to see what develops in the way of the relationship. It was not the OCD/Anxiety issues that my soon to be ex wife has that led to us filing for divorce.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

You know this, but my fiancee is ADHD. It affects her memory, emotion regulation, sensitivity to time, endless storytelling.

You only need someone sensitive to your particular situation. It's not asking too much.

gregloa · 61-69, M

Depends

ReptilianFromPlanetCrush · M

i would be understanding. People cant help that they have anxiety. it takes ttime to work through these things.

rinkydinkydoink · M

If she either A'd or B'd and he immediately signaled he didn't need any "projects" how would that affect her?

GuyWithOpinions · 31-35, M

Me personally: id understand from dealing with people like that all the time. I have my own issues too. Id understand that everyone has thier own issues and id try to use whatever methods i know help you deal with what your feeling.

Id assume some might view it as baggage though.

Jackaloftheazuresand · 31-35, M

You're checking, this is contributing to your anxiety.

DailyFlash · 56-60, M

I might think of it as an excuse to not see me.