Idk how to break up with my bf please help I want to break up with my bf (it’s a long distance...

You’re worried about being with him.

You’re worried about breaking up with him.

Break up with him, and stop allowing yourself to worry so much. I used to worry and overthink everything too, and I can understand why you’re worrying about this guy. But it’s not healthy. You need to handle it and move on.

My husband has taught me a philosophy that I have adapted and it has made me SUCH a happier person! If you have a problem, fix it or let it go. Your simple fix here=be honest with this guy and move on. It sounds like he’s toxic, but don’t worry about what hasn’t happened. 1. Break up. 2. Move on. You do not have to communicate with him at all once you break up. Block, ignore, protect your peace. If he would try to reach out to anyone you know, they can do the same.

Fix your problem and let it go. Move on and direct your focus on positive things. You do not deserve to punish yourself with worries and a guy who isn’t making you happy.

PDXNative1986 · 36-40, MVIP

Honestly, the only bit of practical advice I have for you has nothing to do with this relationship it would be breakup with your religion because any religion that tells you who you can and can't date is a high control group no sane human being should want anything to do with. The power you let those people have over you is obscene. if my religion told me I couldn't be with someone I wanted that would be the end of my faith. I'd walk. It is literally none of their business who I happen to date. the very fact that they're even trying is reason enough to disentangle yourself from it expediently. Why the hell would you want to belong to one so controlling?

PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F

You already know you need to break it off with him, but before you do, take some steps to keep yourself safe. Be clear on who your circle of support is and pre warn them that you are going to need them to check in more. Devise a code that you can use to communicate that you need help. There are also domestic abuse charities who can offer guidance and support. I'm reading a book at the moment called "the gift of fear" survival signals that protect us from violence, by Gavin De Becker. It is really good. I recommend you get a copy. Take care lovely. You can message me if you want to chat. Xx

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MarineBob · 61-69, M

Voice mail

Convivial · 26-30, F

Why not just be honest... Tell him it's not working for you?

lissah · 36-40, F

Omg just fucking do it. I dont want to be with you anymore. Have the best life without me.

Virgo79 · 61-69, M

Sounds like you give good reasons, shouldn't have to be afraid

IndianFreak

I know it is a tough call - but if you are not feeling great or comfy been with him - just say him and call off the relationship.

Amur8711 · 31-35, M

This is a situation that if you are this scared of him then leaving is your best option despite what he may do.

Please break it off and just be completely blunt with him. Keep it short and to the point. You already expressed your fear of him to him.

I know your afraid of what he might do, but now you are letting him hold you as a prisoner.

PinkMoon · 26-30, F

Break up with him and deal with the fallout. Staying any longer is a threat to your safety. Don't ignore your gut. Whatever pictures he has if shared you can just say are AI.

Renkon · M

A healthy relationship is one where you feel safe. If you're scared, that's your answer.

Keep it simple: reach out once — a message, a call — and be direct. No long explanations, no apologies, no reasons. Something like: "I'm not comfortable continuing this relationship. I wish you well and thank you for the good times." That's it.

Do not explain yourself. Reasons invite arguments, and arguments keep you stuck.

Do not feel guilty. Do not check on him later to see if he's okay — that's not your job anymore.
Block if you need to. Distance is already between you; use it.

You owe him honesty. You owe yourself peace.

itsnotimportant

'Hey. So this thing we have, it's not working out for me anymore.'

Like that.

Chiefjustice · 46-50, M

It is a long distance relationship. Cut him off, done. Block him, reach out to his family and let them know. If has an iota of human desency left in him he will not bother you. Get a resteraing order if needed. Show strength i'm cottage do not enable him.

GohantheThird · M

As horrible as it sounds, I think you should either do a text message or a Dear John letter and have a friend help you write the message.

You're in a long distance relationship, so it's understandable that you wouldn't do this face to face. I had a girl dump me via text. It sucked, but I knew deep down she didn't have the guts for a face to face conversation.

Best of luck with whatever you decide.

GoFish ·

he's not your friend.. block him
and have your mom block him.. you aren't obligated to indulge strangers online and he's making you do things you don't want to. that's disrespectful.. be more careful in the future because there are deranged psychopaths out there

Mudkip · 31-35, M

He sounds like an anime side character. Just say it's not working out but wish him the best.

Kiesel · 56-60, M

Just ghost him
That seems to the the weapon of choice

MasterLee · 56-60, M

Just stop taking his calls

Jessmari · 46-50, T

You're psyching yourself out. Tell him it's over. Sounds like he barks alot more then he bites.

Save copies of any conversation afterwards particularly if they are threatening. Report him to the authorities if needed.

black4white · 56-60, M

Just be honest and do what you gotta do… you are talking yourself into NOT doing what you want AND at this point it appears that you are not wanting this sooo why waste his time and yours…
Be the adult you are and do the right thing …good luck

MayorOfCrushtown · M

he sounds like a nut case. end it the quicker the better.

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