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Idk how to break up with my bf please help

I want to break up with my bf (it’s a long distance relationship) but I don’t know how, im too scared, he never theeatened to do anything to me but he has some weird actions, like sometimes hes very condescending but denies it, after i mention it he apologizes for it, he found my moms socials (?) bc i didnt want to tell him and it got stuck in his head, he pressured me into giving him names of some people in my life (i gave general names nothing he could do anything i think), and he gets bothered when i say im scared of him, even tho he says it doesnt bother him I can tell it really does. I keep having a weird gut feeling, but im too scared of his reaction if we do break up, (one of the reasons is he pressured me into sending him *those* types of pictures, he always said he would never but in the moment he did, it was always a one time view photo tho so there was no way for him to save them or screenshot but it does scare me a lot), he also knows my city but not my address i never gave it to him, but he knows how to doxx people even tho he never doxxed anyone. Our religions are also different ao we cant be together i found out a few months ago. I dont know how to break up im too scared but its consuming me. I need help..
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You’re worried about being with him.

You’re worried about breaking up with him.

Break up with him, and stop allowing yourself to worry so much. I used to worry and overthink everything too, and I can understand why you’re worrying about this guy. But it’s not healthy. You need to handle it and move on.

My husband has taught me a philosophy that I have adapted and it has made me SUCH a happier person! If you have a problem, fix it or let it go. Your simple fix here=be honest with this guy and move on. It sounds like he’s toxic, but don’t worry about what hasn’t happened. 1. Break up. 2. Move on. You do not have to communicate with him at all once you break up. Block, ignore, protect your peace. If he would try to reach out to anyone you know, they can do the same.

Fix your problem and let it go. Move on and direct your focus on positive things. You do not deserve to punish yourself with worries and a guy who isn’t making you happy.
Rachelotsa · 26-30, FNew
@cherryxblossom Youre absolutely right, I just need to bring myself to actually do it, I get way too scared, nobody in my family or friends irl knows about this relationship (just my youngest stepsister but what can she even do lol), and Im too scared of suffering any consequences for that, he says he keeps tabs on people who did him wrong in the past, that also scares me a lot…
@Rachelotsa Block him. Block him on everything. Stalking exes is a tough habbit to break, so it would be best to make sure he can't find you regardless of his intentions.