whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
Fieldmaster · 46-50, M
@whowasthatmaskedman wow, good for you sir.
Magenta · F
No it is not. I've thought this for a long while. And yes it can certainly diminish the romance / intimacy. It can create "familiarity breeds contempt".
I think we place a mega amount of unrealistic expectation onto our spouses. People forget they are still an individual with their own personality. Giving each other space is nearly the most important thing we can do.
I think we place a mega amount of unrealistic expectation onto our spouses. People forget they are still an individual with their own personality. Giving each other space is nearly the most important thing we can do.
Miram · 31-35, F
What's important is to respect the other person's boundaries. We all have different boundaries and that's okay.
I might get burdened too fast, someone else might handle it better..etc. it is not healthy to act like we all have similar capabilities and trauma dump. You have to find out first what they can handle.
I might get burdened too fast, someone else might handle it better..etc. it is not healthy to act like we all have similar capabilities and trauma dump. You have to find out first what they can handle.
Fieldmaster · 46-50, M
@Miram Yes, true!
Infamous607 · 51-55, M
Depends on the relationship and how close they are.
I think that instead of killing intimacy it makes it deeper. To have someone with whom I feel completely comfortable and free and trust thAt no matter what this person has my back. No matter how heavy the load gets.
Getting to know her vulnerabilities and struggles would only make me want to take care of her even more.
I don't need a club for men to deal with my challenges. I would have her, And she would have me.
That's what I think.
I think that instead of killing intimacy it makes it deeper. To have someone with whom I feel completely comfortable and free and trust thAt no matter what this person has my back. No matter how heavy the load gets.
Getting to know her vulnerabilities and struggles would only make me want to take care of her even more.
I don't need a club for men to deal with my challenges. I would have her, And she would have me.
That's what I think.
MayorOfCrushtown · M
Fieldmaster · 46-50, M
@MayorOfCrushtown I think it is great for you two. However, i dont beleive she comes to you or you go to here to talk about everything and anything you feel like, social, work, family, friends and social circles drama and politics. I hate family and friends drama/politics. People act like high schoolers with low toelrance. Becauce they are the God almighty and wont tolerate anyone accept them.
MayorOfCrushtown · M
@Fieldmaster what do you think we talk about ??
Fieldmaster · 46-50, M
@MayorOfCrushtown I don't know, shooting in the dark, what today's normal couples talk about.. kids? Work? Family issues?
Fertilization · 36-40, F
Healthy intimacy thrives when both people share life’s weight together, even if not equally at every moment. Sometimes one partner carries more (like during illness, stress, or career struggles), but the key is reciprocity—each person knows the other would step up if roles were reversed.
Fieldmaster · 46-50, M
@Fertilization True, very true, however, what i am referring to here is really using our partner our punching bag/expecations to meet "ALL" the emotional, physical, pscyholigical, physical needs and carry all our baggage?
And fair is probably not the true term here, realistic expectations, rather? If this makes sense..
And fair is probably not the true term here, realistic expectations, rather? If this makes sense..
