Is it fair to carry all our burden by our partner/significant other/husband or wife. Did it hurt romance or intimacy in your relationship?

Making that one person our Best Friend, and to unload everything on him or her to carry on their shoulder, can often kill the romance/intimacy?

In olden days, men and women socialized in segrgated settings, where we each had mini trusted friends to help deal with our challanges.

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Fertilization · 36-40, F

Healthy intimacy thrives when both people share life’s weight together, even if not equally at every moment. Sometimes one partner carries more (like during illness, stress, or career struggles), but the key is reciprocity—each person knows the other would step up if roles were reversed.

ArtieKat · M

@Fertilization Exactly as you say - the balance changes throughout a relationship but the important thing is that it returns to equilibrium.

Fertilization · 36-40, F

@ArtieKat And this is how it works.

Fieldmaster · 46-50, M

@Fertilization True, very true, however, what i am referring to here is really using our partner our punching bag/expecations to meet "ALL" the emotional, physical, pscyholigical, physical needs and carry all our baggage?
And fair is probably not the true term here, realistic expectations, rather? If this makes sense..