Is it fair to carry all our burden by our partner/significant other/husband or wife. Did it hurt romance or intimacy in your relationship?

Making that one person our Best Friend, and to unload everything on him or her to carry on their shoulder, can often kill the romance/intimacy?

In olden days, men and women socialized in segrgated settings, where we each had mini trusted friends to help deal with our challanges.

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Magenta · F

No it is not. I've thought this for a long while. And yes it can certainly diminish the romance / intimacy. It can create "familiarity breeds contempt".

I think we place a mega amount of unrealistic expectation onto our spouses. People forget they are still an individual with their own personality. Giving each other space is nearly the most important thing we can do.

Fieldmaster · 46-50, M

@Magenta Right!! We absolutely do. Very well said!!

Magenta · F

@Fieldmaster Thanks. 😊

P.S. Of course we should support each other, it's a given, right?! But this is in regards to what you said..."unload everything on" and "expect them to carry all our burden." Yikes, horrible thing to do to anyone.

Fieldmaster · 46-50, M

@Magenta Exactly, supporting each other goes without saying, as long as it is legitmate/within reason. I do not think supporting your one others unrealistic demands blindly is morally and ethically right.