The one that got away

No. I believe break ups happen for a reason.
If we were the right fit, there would be no need to break up.

I used to tell myself I met the right person at the wrong time. But actually the relationship wasn't a good one. I was delusional. I loved them so much, I played my part in making the union turn sour, but they did nothing to try and make the relationship one that didn't require my constant insecurities.
Coming back after breaks should improve things but their behaviour remained the same and attitude became less loving.
I think I needed too much from them and they didn't have the capacity for that.

I've since had better unions that lasted a lot shorter than that one. But it certainly made me realise I could feel different, and receive more love.

I don’t believe there is just one person for everyone. I think you can have multiple meaningful relationships that are pertinent to what point you are at in your life. Sometimes we outgrow the other person, sometimes they outgrow us. The odds of staying with the same person your entire life, where you grow and change together, are against you, but it’s definitely possible

At the time it happened? Expensive psychotherapy sessions to deal with the shock and pain so i could stop crying uncontrolably and function during the heartbreak.

Then later i found stoic wisdom, and esther perel videos on youtube. But what worked best of all was a 10day vipasanna meditation retreat where i had time to reflect and understand the cause and effect, and come to terms with the loss.

Vicky
I was so sad :(
But eventually healed

We was having an affair she was married. she stayed with him and i had to let her go

I was the one that got away.

No. The ones who got away were ones I was happy to say goodbye to.

At least in my case there were some paradoxes about the "one who got away"

Nope, after a short time, looking back, whew… dodged that bullet.