I started talking to someone new and I'm concerned for them

Their life doesn't seem great right now, and while I'm happy to listen and give advice where needed, it's starting to feel like we're going in circles a bit. They talk about the same thing repeatedly even when I ask them questions to try to get a better understanding of what's going on, and they're clearly unhappy but it seems like I can't get through to them that maybe reevaluating things is necessary. I want to help but it seems like there's nothing I can do.

I guess I'm just worried. They seem like a realy nice person and I think I'd like being their friend in future. But for now I'm worried about them.

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Mordechai · 31-35, M

One of the things I learned in counselling training and in life is that we can't save anyone, ultimately it's up to the person to change their circumstances or at their own pace.

Best we can do is listen, have your boundaries and a self wellness plan there if you start to feel emotionally drained or sad, eg. You start losing sleep thinking about it, you can't pour from an empty cup.

Infamous607 · 51-55, M

@Mordechai That's what I said.
You just said it more eloquentlier.
😊

KiwiDan · 31-35, M

@Mordechai listening is all I can do anyway. I know I can't save them, but I like to help. If they decide they want to talk I'll be here to listen.