Hey guys! I need help

I need your advice.
There was a guy i used to talk to,went talked everyday and went on a date but that's it.i felt that something was off with him....no matter how much he begged to go on more dates i kept making up excuses and to be fair i was busy doing my practice at the children's hospital anyways.
He got mad at me for not texting back asap...but i was literally around sick kids,so fuck him🙄

Anyways, when he found out i was sick he refused to talk to me.
He started dating a girl.
Recently he reached out,tested the water...of course i did not respond.

But....i found out he is still with that girl. Not sure if he wanted to cheat or dump her if i said yes...
He said " It is no fix"
How gross is that?? (He is french so sometimes his english confuses me but i am pretty sure "It" meant that girl)

She seems to be in love and imagine marr,lying him and having kids with that piece ov shit.
I feel bad for her,she seems nice and deserves so much better.
Should i send her an insta message about him? Also i am pretty sure he is now back on fetlife looking for someone else...

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DunningKruger · 61-69, M

You could send her a message about your experience with him, but don't expect her to believe you. She will likely just believe that you're jealous and want lover boy back. Beyond that, you aren't responsible for her decisions. She is presumably an adult who can figure things out for herself.

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DunningKruger · 61-69, M

@Girlbehindthecurtain Your message isn't going to change that, but it will be your due diligence.

Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F

@DunningKruger honestly if she'd choose to stay then that's fine.i just can't decide if i should my best friends said i should but i don't really want to do all this.
I hate how he put this weight on my shoulders

DunningKruger · 61-69, M

@Girlbehindthecurtain She's not your responsibility. You don't have to do anything if you don't want to. You can let it go.

userfawkes1105

I think there’s a lot of assumption there from your part. Just block him and focus your energy on better things. At the end of the day do u want him to brake her heart or do u want to brake her heart. Again all based on assumption as they aren’t married even yet.

Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F

@userfawkes1105 what do you mean by a lot of assumption?

userfawkes1105

@Girlbehindthecurtain tested the water…not sure if he wanted to cheat or dump…pretty sure “it” ment…she seems to be in love… she seems nice…deserves so much better…pretty sure he’s back on fetlife looking for some one else… just seems like a lot of outward assumption. I’d say just don’t waste the energy on all of it maybe just cut him out n worry not better invest your energy else where. But im more hands off because i harvest nothing other than self righteousness there at the expense of others.

Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F

@userfawkes1105 you do not really understand my question but that's okay

OlderSometimesWiser · F

I’d stay out of it. There’s a good chance she wouldn’t believe you anyway, especially if she told him about your message. He’d just paint you as a disgruntled ex. Sometimes the past is best left in the past and people have to learn their own lessons.

Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F

@OlderSometimesWiser right,i'd have created a fake insta to send the message.
Yesterday i found out he posted an ad on fetlife so he is/was speaking to women...so i guess i'd not be his first thought being behind it.
I just feel like this is not a girl's girl thing to do

pdockal · 56-60, M

Move on

Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F

@pdockal how can i move on when i never cared about him to begin with?

pdockal · 56-60, M

@Girlbehindthecurtain

If that was true you wouldn't even posted this and wouldn't have even wanted to connect with him again etc etc etc

Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F

@pdockal okay,i see...so you cannot read😅 i posted this because i feel bad knowing this info and i wanted to know if i should tell her.
I did not want to connect with him because he is an awful human being

Ferric67 · M

No longer your issue
Best to forget about him
It's not your job to interfere with his shenanigans
His own issues will sink him

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