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He wants to try again to make it work

He came to my room and we talked a LOT about what made us grow apart over the last year or so. He wants to keep trying to make a relationship work. He says he loves me and apologized profusely for the way he's been treating me lately. We addressed the issues we'd been avoiding.

Btw, this man is bipolar and has ADHD. Impulsive decisions are his M.O. 😮‍💨 I have never been one of those people who is always on/off again with a boyfriend (childish), so all of this is very silly to me. But I do have to consider his conditions and the fact that he struggles to maintain routines and refrain from impulsive decisions.

I'm taking this one day at a time.
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I sort of read some of your posts and I think (in my unsolicited opinion) your relationship dynamics is very toxic.
I feel bad for anyone who has been struggling with mental disease but it will take a lot of work having relationship with them.
If you are willing to sacrifice most of the time, then maybe continue. But I think it’s really hard.
Hope everything works fine at your end though.
Pretzel · 70-79, M
In the meantime maybe you can keep that new apartment fund growing.

It has been my experience that people get very comfortable in their ruts.

Behavior is formed over a long period of time.

Fingers crossed though
Barefooter25 · 46-50, M
I have dated and been with women who were bipolar and believe me, it never works out in the long run. The best thing for you to do is save as much money as you can and when the time comes, move out and focus on your life.
basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M
Okay.
I have a mental illness.
So does my brother, he's bipolar.
Is he under treatment?
Because things will not improve unless he does.
basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M
@DearAmbellina2113 what do you want to do?
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
@basilfawlty89 I am hesitant to throw away 4 yrs of history and emotional investment. If he seriously shows effort to change, I'm willing to give it another chance I guess.
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Livingwell · 61-69, M
No, no, and no! You know the root of his issues and it will never change. You owe it to yourself to be happy. Find a good man. 🤗
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
@Livingwell good men don't want women like me
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@Livingwell this.

There are plenty of non abusive men out there who would love to date you. And you deserve it. This guy plays you like a fiddle. You're an emotional toy to him. Not everyone with BPD and adhd is abusive toward their partner. Not an excuse. It's something else in him that makes him this way toward you. A real meanness and desire to be cruel. Do better for yourself.... and in any of these self help books on love you read, they would never suggest someone talk so low of themselves! That will never get you anywhere but hurt. Think about it. Maybe talk with a professional being 100% honest about bf and things he's said and done to hurt you and see what they think, too. I'm sure they would rather see you move on too.
You definitely need to follow with your heart
JimboSaturn · 56-60, M
Haven't you had this conversation many times?
Jessmari · 46-50
You were so close...
SkeetSkeet · 100+, F
Do you want to keep repeating this pattern with him for the next 20 years?
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Banksy83 · 41-45, M
@JimboSaturn He uses butt plugs on himself
3Dogmatic · 46-50, M
He’s not worth your emotional energy. He’s a vampire that is feeding off of your energy.
WormMan · 56-60, M
Sounds like a narcissist who enjoys torturing you, please keep your plan for finding your own place as a backup
Banksy83 · 41-45, M
Leave the nutcase and come back to me in St Ives tomorrow
Banksy83 · 41-45, M
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