He wants to try again to make it work

He came to my room and we talked a LOT about what made us grow apart over the last year or so. He wants to keep trying to make a relationship work. He says he loves me and apologized profusely for the way he's been treating me lately. We addressed the issues we'd been avoiding.

Btw, this man is bipolar and has ADHD. Impulsive decisions are his M.O. 😮‍💨 I have never been one of those people who is always on/off again with a boyfriend (childish), so all of this is very silly to me. But I do have to consider his conditions and the fact that he struggles to maintain routines and refrain from impulsive decisions.

I'm taking this one day at a time.

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Livingwell · 61-69, M

No, no, and no! You know the root of his issues and it will never change. You owe it to yourself to be happy. Find a good man. 🤗

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@Livingwell good men don't want women like me

Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F

@Livingwell this.

There are plenty of non abusive men out there who would love to date you. And you deserve it. This guy plays you like a fiddle. You're an emotional toy to him. Not everyone with BPD and adhd is abusive toward their partner. Not an excuse. It's something else in him that makes him this way toward you. A real meanness and desire to be cruel. Do better for yourself.... and in any of these self help books on love you read, they would never suggest someone talk so low of themselves! That will never get you anywhere but hurt. Think about it. Maybe talk with a professional being 100% honest about bf and things he's said and done to hurt you and see what they think, too. I'm sure they would rather see you move on too.