Do most romantic relationships end up bad?

I’d like to think most don’t go south because that would hurt the romantic in me too much to admit.

It’s common for the passion that drives a lot of romance to slowly fade over time though, especially as Life requires more adult responsibilities and parenting has to take a vital role in the day-to-day. A lot of people get pulled so thin with every role they have to play that the romance within gets very little attention, and that can cause the spiral downward. One…or both have to take note of it and feel safe enough to start a conversation about it otherwise the spark that once was will fade to a tiny ember needing a tremendous amount of love and attention to even begin fueling the fire that made you you as a couple. That’s too much work for some, but hopefully not most.

Most people have multiple relationships prior to getting married. Divorce rate for 1st marriages is ~ 45-50% .. even higher for 2nd /3rd marriages. Yes, most relationships eventually fail.

Marriage takes consistency .. good communication .. ability to compromise at times .. balance of give and take between partners .. to be successful. Many people can't manage one or more of those things and fail to put in the effort it takes.

Its as simple .. and as complicated .. as that.

They do seem to.
It's nuanced... Part ego, part familiarity breeds contempt, partly the fantasy or ideal we had of them in our head does not align, emotional immaturity, no commitment and just looking for someone to fill a void. Geesh the list is long. 😁

Generally because it’s a one sided feeling so the other person gets hurt.
I think the only times it doesn’t go bad is when the break up is mutual.

Most people do not understand that love and respect are earned every day, through actions, words, and a lot of work and personal sacrifice. If you want your relationship to be the most important thing in your life, you have to put in the work and sentiment. Falling into like, bumping uglies, and sleeping together does not a relationship make.

They do cause at the start you both become whole and after awhile when the infatuation of the relationship wears away , your back to yourself and instead of leaving it work naturally you end up forcing and then you end up becoming to clingy and toxic.
Fights and all of that shit then happens .
And the swearing , never again that will happen and it happens again and again .
What happens then after that is leaving one or both suicidal.
So that's my answer

Nope

I think i have been lucky.

I had a couple of relationships that I thought, yeah, this is the one, only for them to end up very bad.

Yes, and the answer is...I really don't know.

My wife's college lovers would all say "yes," but she warned all of them that if they got serious, she would dump them.

Mine don't, because I pull the plug when it's still beautiful.

Not if you are truly committed to it and it is on an even keel

Yeah most of mine end with them shouting and crying about me cheating on them again

Most people are unsuited but end up together because in their heads loneliness is worse than a bad relationship

Because they are based on lust not love

Selfishness and incompatible objectives and lack of loyalty

Yes